SOME POINTS FROM A BOOK ABOUT SEX EDUCATION
Recently I've read a book and want to share some points from that book to all of you.
> Sex aik aisa topic hai k es per likhna mashraqi joorm,es ko discuss kernna zubaan bundi,es per talk sonna ghair insaani ammal hai,laikin ye kis k liay hai?her uss shaks k liay jo limits ko cross keray,ya phir uss ki baat ka maqsad insaniyat sooz ho insaniyat saaz na ho.
> Sex her insaan ki zuroorat hai yaad rahay yahaan "zuroorat" ka word use hua hai "khowahish" ka nahi.jab ye sex insaan ki khowahish bun jaati hai tu insaan es khowahish ko poora kernnay k liay her tara ka teriqa use kerta hai.jis me her legal aur illegal shamil hoota hai.
> Sex se awareness her mard aur auraat ki zuroorat hai aur islam aik kamil deen hai tu ye sexual need ki bhi guidance daita hai.
> Europe aur America me pregnant women ko ye kahaa jaata hai k wo zayda se zayada qaam keray aur qahil na ho takay delivery easy rahay saath hi uss ko khajoor(dates) aur fruits khanay aur milk use kernay ka kahaa jaata hai yaad rahay dates ka use nabi(saw) ki soonat k qareeb ter hai.
> Private parts ko zayada dekhnay se aqal me bhi fatoor aata hai aur eye sight bhi weak hooti hai.
> Ager koi insaan shaadi ker k nikah k bahd,parday me aur apnay aur apni wife k ooper kuch kapra ker k,dim light ya phir darkness me aur Islamic way se sexual intercourse keray ga tu uss ki aulaad bhi naik hoo gi.
> Kabhi husband apnay wife k saath sexual intercourse ko apnay kisi friend ko mat bataaye aur na hi wife apni kisi friend ko bataye.es se husband-wife relation me future me problems ho sakti hen.
> Bachoon ko waqt per sex education daina parents ka qaam hai.aur es k liay parents aur children me bonding strong ho takay ye aapus me her baat discuss kerain aur buchay apni sari problems parents ko batayain.daughter ko sex education mother day aur son ko father.
> Parents hi shoru se lay ker akhir tak bachay ki imaani-o-ikhlaqi terbiyat,aqali pookhtagi paida kernay,nafsayati waqaar aur boordbari paida kernnay k haqiqi zimadarr han aur achay aloom se aarasta kernay aur her tara ki sakafat aur tahzeeb se aahrasta kernay k zimadarr han.es liay walidan ko apni zimadari ka ahsaas hoona chahiay.aur in feraiz ko adda kernay aur in zimadariyoon ko poora kernay me apnay waqt se istafada kernna chahiay.
> Masturbation se zaahni(mental) burayiyaan paida hooti han.
> Her cheez ko ahtadaal k saath kernna chahiay same with sexual intercourse.
> First night husband aur wife dono ko pelhay wazu k saath 2 nawafil perhnay chahiyaan aur phir ye dua kerain k ah ALLAH mujhey aur meri aulad ko jo tu mujhey aata keray ga shaataan se apni hifazat me rukhna.
> Mard ye dua kray k ae ALLAH tu ne es aurat(wife) me jo bhalayiyaan rukhi haan wo mujhey aata ker aur jo burayiyaan es me haan un k shur se mujhey apni hifazat me rukhna. Aur wife bhi apnay husband k baray me ye hi dua keray.
> Intercourse k bahd ghusal kerain ya phir proper wazu kerain.
> Aurat ko chahiay k wo apnay husband ki her zuroorat aur khowahish ka khayaal rukhay aur mard ko chahiay k wo apni wife ki her khowahish aur zuroorat ka khayal rukhay ager aisa na ho tu mard/aurat ka rojhaan doseri teruf chala jaata hai jis me homosexuality,illegal sex aur masturbation shamil han.
> Yahan males ko aik baat batana bahot zuroori hai k hymen kisi bhi lerki k vergin hoonay ka sabot nahi hai,kaheen lerkiyoon ka hymen hoota hi nahi hai,kaheen ka shaadi se pelhay hi kisi aur activity me rupture hoo jaata hai like sports,legs ko stretch kernnay se ya phir kisi aur waja se but ye baat lerki ko khud bhi paata nahi hooti aur ye bhi zuroori nahi k shaadi k bahd aik hi intercourse se hymen rupture ho jaye kaheen bar ye 3 bar intercourse kernnay se bhi nahi hoota aur kabhi tu ye childbirth tak bhi safe hoota hai.
> Ager aap ki wife ko sex k baray me sari education hai aur wo sub kuch jaanti hai tu plz ye mat sumjhain k wo ghalut ho gi.bcoz sex ki education her mard aur aurat ki zuroorat hai jaisay aap ko ye sub paata hai aap ki wife ko bhi hoo sakta hai paata ho shahid Islamic books study ker k ,parents se,sites se ya bhi koi aur sourse ho..aur ager sex education na ho tu insaan ko paata kaisay chalay k ab hum ne illegal things se avoid kernna hai.
> insaan jab illegal sex kerta hai tu uss ko kaheen tara ki jinsi bimariyaan lag jaati han.
> Aik aur baat jo main khud se add kernna chahti hoon wo ye k ager aap ko kisi bhi insaan ki koi aisi baat paata chalay jo k sahi na ho tu plz kabhi bhi uss insaan ka name mention mat kerain aur na hi bahot zayada criticize/gheebat kerain ya bura bhala kahaan.doseroon ki betiyoon aur doseray insaano k razoon per parda dala kerain khuda aap k raazoon per bhi parda dalay ga.
> Parday ka ALLAH ne insaani nature ko samnay rukhtay huay faisla kiya hai takay mard aur aurat k relation pakizaa,safayi aur zimma dari ki base per hoon.
> Namahrum lerki jitna ho sakay namahrum mard se avoid keray aur namahrum mard jitna hoo sakay namahrum lerki se avoid keray.
> Namahrum k samnay tu aurat ko parda kernna hi hai saath hi ager mahrum se fitnay ka undayshaa ho tab mahrum se bhi parda keray.kuin k mahrum ho ya namahrum sub ka hudood me rahnna tu ALLAH k ahkaam me shamil hai.
> Sub buraayiyoon se buchnay ka ye hi teriqa hai k mard aurat se aur aurat mard se parda keray,wo apni nighaa me haya rukhay,nimaaz qahim kerain,khud ko kisi bhi positive activity me busy rukhain aur ye yaad rukhain k jab ALLAH insaan ko kisi baat se rookta hai tu uss me insaan ki hi bhalayi hooti hai.
> Shataan aap ko ghalut rah per luganay k liay proper planning kerta hai aur jab aap ghalut rah per chal perhaan tu wo aap ko her tara support kerta hai.es ki example main aap ko Dr.zakir k aik lecture se daita hoon aik achay bhalay educated naik insaan ko aik lerki ne kaha aaj raat aap ne meray saath spend kernni hai jawaab me uss admi ne kahaa astakfar astakfar ye tu bahot bara gunaah hai main aisa nahi ker sakta.phir kiya hua usshi admi ko aik lerki ka phone aya aur uss admi ne soocha lerki se phone per baat kernaay me kiya burayi hai,phir uss lerki ne kahaa aaj hum aik saath khaana khayain gay kisi hotel me uss admi ne soocha haan tu thiek hai ye koi ghalut baat tu nahi hai.kuch din guzeray tu wo lerki kahnay lagi aaj night aik saath spend gay aur uss insaan ne aisa hi kiya.ussay ye sumajh nahi ayi k ye shataan ka bichayaa hua aik jaal tha.
> Shataan sub se zayada tab khush hoota hai jab husband-wife me lerayi hooti hai ya phir divorce hooti hai.
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