VAGINISMUS (ADUM-DAKHOL) IN URDU

VAGINISMUS (ADUM-DAKHOL)

Chund din pehlay merey paas ek khoobsurat jora aaya unki shaadi ko derh saal sey bhi zyada arsa ho gaya tha magar abhi tak mubaashirat mukammal nahin ho saki thi jab bhi mubashrat ki koshish hoti to biwi khaufzada ho jati uska jism akarr jata jiski wajah sey dakhool na mumkin ho jata. Shaadi kay ibteda'ee dinon mein dakhool kay liye biwi ka ta'awwun aur rehmunaee bohut zaroori hai iss kay baghaer dakhool na mumkin hai bar bar ki naakaam koshish kay ba'ad khawand ney mehsoos karna shirat kay qabil nahin. Ab woh shadeed depression ka shikaar ho gaya uski jinsi dilchaspi kam ho gaee khusoosan biwi ko dekh kar uss kay jazbaat mein koi garmi paeda hona bund ho gaee uss ney ka'ee baar khudkushi ka bhi socha. Mian biwi kay tafseeli interview kay ba'ad ilm hua kay masla usey nahin uski biwi ko hai yeh baat sunn kar woh kafi relax ho gaya yani biwi iss beemari ka shikaar thi jab uska tajziya kya gaya to ma'aloom hua kay uss ney apni sahaeliyon aur cousins sey sunn rakha tha kay mubashrat aur bachey ki paeda'esh ek bohut takleef deh amar hai le'haza uss ney socha kay woh to iss surat main shaadi na kar sakey gi uss ney bataya kay woh haeraan thi kay itna bara zakar faraj mein dakhil kaisey hoga. Vaginismus (adumdakhool) mein faraj kay mu'nh kay ird gird kay patthey ghaer iraadi tor per sukarr jatey hain jiski wajah sey dakhool na mumkin ho jata hai yeh aurtein jinsi le'haz sey bilkul theek hoti hain sex sey lutfandoz hoti hain aisey a'aamaal jinka aakhri nateeja mubashrat na ho uss sey lutf uthati hain. Foreplay aur bazer kay ishte'aal sey orgasm tak hasil karleti hain magar ju'nhi dakhool ka marhala aaey ga yeh shadeed khaufzada ho jati hain ba'az surton mein aisi aurat ko teeka laga kar bey hosh kar kay mubashrat ki koshish ki gaee woh bhi kaamyaab na hosaki ta'hum yeh beemaari bohut kam hai aisi khwateen kay khawand bar bar ki naakaami kay ba'ad sex mein dilchaspi kho detey hain aur saanvi namardi ka shikaar ho jatey hain.

Adumdakhool Ki Wajoohaat

(Causes Of Vaginismus)

Iss masley ki wajoohaat nafsiyati bhi hoti hain aur jismani bhi. Ta'hum zyada ter wajoohaat nafsiyati hoti hain merey apney tajurbey kay mutabiq iss ki sab sey bari wajah mubashrat ka khauf hai humarey haan iss hawaley sey bohut si ghalat baatein ma'aroof hain meri ek mareeza ney bataya kay uss kay mian ney usey bataya tha kay uss kay dost ki shaadi ki pehli raat uski biwi ki cheekhein dur dur tak suni gaee'n zahir hai kay yeh bilkul mubaaligha hai pehli mubashrat mein itni takleef nahin hoti ya larki ney suna hota hai kay mubashrat kay ba'ad woh haamila hogi aur bachey janney kay doran woh marr jaegi yani iss khauf ki wajah aksar auqaat ghalat ma'aloomaat aur laa ilmi hoti hai. Mubashrat kay khauf ki ba'az doosri wajoohaat bhi hoti hain maslan koi jinsi kashmakash, bachpan ki jinsi zyadti, zina biljabar, mardo'n ka khauf aur faraj kay phatney ka saha'oori ya laa sha'oori khauf waghaera iss kay elawa ehsaas e gunah aur sex ko gunda samajhna bhi ek aam wajah hai.

Adamdakhol ki Jismani Wajoohat

Vaginismus ki physical causes (Jismani wajoohaat) mein sakht parda e bakarat (hymen) sar-e-fehrist hai ba'az auqaat yeh parda iss qadar sukht aur mota hota hai kay kisi bhi surat dakhool nahin ho sakta iss surat mein jab bhi mubaashirat ki koshish hoti hai to usey shadeed takleef hoti hai. Aisi surat mein fori tor per doctor sey raabta kya jaey iss kay khatmey kay liye bohut ma'amooli operation ki zaroorat hai paeroo ki beemari ki wajah sey bhi yeh masla paeda ho jata hai ba'az auqaat bachey ki paeda'esh kay ba'ad bhi yeh masla paeda ho jata hai ba'az auqaat bachey ki takleef deh paedae'sh kay ba'ad bhi aurtein iss beemari mein mubtala ho jati hain.

NOTE:

Vaginismus Treatment mein der na ki jaey warna aurat kay sath mard bhi ka'ee masa'el ka shikaar ho jata hai iski jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi bilkul khatam ho jati hai ya phir woh jinsi khwahish ki takmeel kay liye ghar sey baher doosri aurton kay paas jata hai aur ba'az afraad nafsiyati mardana kamzori ka shikaar ho jatey hain. Der ki surat mein amooman shaadi talaq per khatm ho jati hai elaj kay liye sab sey pehley kisi achi khatoon doctor sey muaaena karaya jaey ta'kay woh itmenaan karley kay iss maslay ki koi jismani wajah nahin agar masley ki koi jismani wajah nahin to phir kisi achey mahir e nafsiyat sey raabta kya jaey. Jo jinsi masail mein bhi maharat rakhta ho aksar mahireen e nafsiyat iss hawaley sey na balad hotey hain ba'az shehron mein to nafsiyati elaj ki sahoolat hi mayasser nahin.

SELF TREATMENT OF VAGINISMUS:

Agar iss masley ki nafsiyati wajoohaat bohut gehri nahin to aap khud bhi iss masley ko hal kar sakti hain magar iss tariqey ko shaadi sey pehley kisi bhi surat mein istaemaal na kya jaey kyun kay  Iss mein parda e bakarat phutt jata hai iss sey khawand biwi ki asmat per shakk kar sakta hai. Apni madad aap (selfhelp) ka yeh tariqa bohut aasan hai behter hai iss silsiley mein aap apney khawand ko aetmaad mein lein aur do haftey mubashrat ki koshish na ki jaey lekin aap apney mian ko foreplay aur jinsi sukoon kay mutabadil tariqon ki madad sey jinsi sukoon pohoncha sakti hain ta'kay woh bey chaen ho kar jaldi mein koi ghalat faisla na kar bethey.


Iss tariqa e elaj mein taqreeban do haftey lag jatey hain magar kamyaabi ki sharah 100% hai agar aap iss mein kamyaab nahin hotiin to phir isi mushq kay sath sath kisi maahir e nafsiyat sey bhi madad lein ta'kay woh aap kay la'shaoori khauf ko khatam kar sakey.
  Amooman dekha gaya hai kay iss tarah kay masley mein donon mian biwi ko ilm hi nahin hota kay exactly mubashrat karni kahan hai chuna'ncha elaj ka pehla qadam yeh hoga kay aap achi tarah roshni mein apni andam e nehani ka muaena karein dekhein konsi cheez kahan hai muaeney sey pehlay agar aap iss jagah ki tasweer dekh lein to muaena karney mein aasaani hogi. (tasaweer humerey haan mil sakti hain) achi tarah muaena karney kay ba'ad apney khawand ko bhi iss jagah ka achi tarah muaena karaein ta'kay woh jaan ley kay bazer kahan hai, faraj aur maq'ad kahan hai. Doosrey qadam per aap 30 minute ka pursukoon waqt iss mushq kay liye mukhtus karein yeh mushq din mein do teen baar bhi ki ja sakti hai iss tarah iss masley per jald qabu paa liya jaey ga kisi pursukoon aur neem garam jagah ka intekhaab karein apney neechey waley kaprey utaar lein laet jaein ya beth jaein  neemdaraz hona zyada behter hai. Aankhein bund kar kay 3 lambey saans lein phir mazeed 3 lambey saans ley kar jism ko relax karein ab apni faraj ko neechey push karein jaisey aap koi cheez faraj sey baher dhakael rahi hain. Phir apni sab sey choti ungli jis kay nakhun katey hun chikni kar kay ahista sey faraj kay ander daakhil karein, daakhil kartey waqt agar bohut zyada khauf ho to mushq sey aadha ghanta pehley valium ki 5mg ki ek goli ley lein jab ungli ka kuch hissa dakhil ho jaey to andazan ek minute kay ba'ad ek inch tak ungli daakhil karein iss doran jism ko dheela chor dein lambey lambey saans lain 5 minute tak isi tarah sakin rakhein aur phir ahista ahista 2 inch tak ungli ander ley jaein. Iss haalat mein jab aap pursukoon mehsoos karein to phir ungli ko ander baher harkat dein sath hi jism ko khusoosan faraj key muscles ko relax karein iss kay liye faraj ko kegel mushq sey bhee'nchein phir dheela chor dein kegel ki mushq ka zikr peechey mojood hai. Sath lambey lambey saans bhi lein jab aap choti ungli ki ander baher harkat ko aasani sey bardaasht kar lein to phir agla marhala shuru karein iss marhaley mein nakhun kati chikni shahadat ki ungli kay sath yehi mushq karein aur jab aap pursukoon aur aaraam deh mehsoos karein to phir yehi mushq, shahadat aur bari ungli kay sath karein agar aap inn donon ungliyon ki ander baher harkat ko aasani sey bardaasht karlein to agley marhaley per yehi mushq aap kay mian karein pehley ek ungli kay sath aur phir do ungliyon kay sath. Iss mushq ko aasan bananey kay liye aap saari mushq pehley tasawwur mein karein jab aap apni aur phir mian ki do ungliyon kay sath bhi aaram deh mehsoos karein phir asli mushq karein.  Jab aap ki do ungliyon ki ander baher harkat ko aasani sey bardaasht karlein to phir agla marhala mubashrat ka hoga magar iss mein bhi pehley ek do din ka'ee baar tasawwur mein mian kay sath mubashrat karein aur phir asli mubashrat karein mubashrat sey pehley lamba foreplay karein foreplay mein faraj ko mushta'el karein, iss sey faraj mazeed relax ho jaegi aur dakhool aasaan hoga. Foreplay sey pehlay mazeed sukoon kay liye aadh ghanta pehley valium ki 5mg ki ek goli ley lein mubashrat kay liye mian neechey laetey aur aap malika ki tarah ooper. Mu'nh mian ki taraf ho thora sa aagey jhuk kar zakar ko aap khud daakhil karein hath sey pakar kar bhi daakhil kar sakti hain. Ab chu'nkay dakhool ka control aap kay paas hai le'haza apni marzi sey jitna chahein daakhil karein zyada takleef ho to baher nikal dein dakhool kay ba'ad pehley to aap saakin rahein jab aap iss haalat mein aaraam deh mehsoos karein phir ahista ahista ooper neechey harkat karein ek aadh din mein aap kamyaab ho jaeingi. Ba'ad azaa'n aap mubashrat kay doosrey tariqey bhi istaemaal kar sakein gi agar aap apni madad aap kay tehet kamyaab na hun to phir kisi mahir e nafsiyat sey elaj kara'ein elaj mein der na ki jaey warna khawand ki sex mein dilchaspi bilkul khatam ho jaegi aur khaandaan kay bikharney ka shadeed khatra hoga. Agar aap aasani sey apni donon ungliyon ko baghaer kisi takleef kay faraj kay ander baher harkat dey sakti hain magar khawand mubashrat ki koshish nahin karta to iss surat mein aap kay liye bohut zaroori hai kay aap mubashrat mein pehel karein khawand kay jazbaat ko mushta'el karein amooman jad khawand kafi arsa mubashrat na kar sakey to phir woh mubashrat ki koshish hi nahin karta.  iss surat mein agar aap ney bharpoor koshish na ki to phir shayad kabhi mubashrat na ho sakey. Jab bhi koi cheez jinsi lazzat kay liye faraj mein dakhil ki jaey gi to aurat per ghusl e janabat lazim ho jaega. Agar jinsi lazzat kay baghaer elaj waghaera kay liye koi cheez maslan ungli faraj mein daakhil ki jaegi to ghusl wajib na hoga magar ba'az fuqha'a ki ra'ey mein jab bhi koi cheez faraj mein daakhil ki jaegi uska maqsad jinsi lazzat ho ya elaj, ghusl zarori ho jata hai ehtiyaat ka taqaza yehi hai kay iss mushq kay ba'ad ghusl kar liya jaey.