PRAGNANCY AND INTERCOURSE (HAMAL OR MUBASHRAT)

PRAGNANCY AND INTERCOURSE (HAMAL OR MUBASHRAT)

Hamal ka arsa 9 maah per mushtamil hota hai itna arsa amooman kisi bhi mard kay liye jinsi amal sey perhaez karna bohut mushkil hai, khwateen mein bhi jinsi khwahish maand nahin parti bul kay 80% khwateen ki jinsi khwahish mein hamal ki doosri seh maahi (4 ta 6 maah) mein izaafa hojata hai. Agarcha aakhri 3 maah mein aksar khwateen ki jinsi khwahish aur dilchaspi kam ho jati hai. Master & Johnson ki research kay mutabiq ek sehat mand haamla aurat kay sath bachey ki paedae'sh sey 4 haftey qabal tak mehfooz tor per mubashrat ki ja sakti hai.

HAMAL K AKHRI MAHINAY

Ba'az afraad to aakhri din tak bhi mubashrat jari rakhtey hain Master & Johnson kay mutabiq bachey ki paedae'sh kay 3 haftey ba'ad aurat sehatyaab ho jati hai aur uss sey mubashrat ki jasakti hai iss doran uski jinsi khwahish wapis aa jati hai. Woh khawateen jo miscarriage ya abortion ka tajurba kar chuki hain unn kay liye yeh behter hai kay woh hamal kay poorey arsey mein khusoosan pehley chund hafton aur aakhri hafton mein mubashrat aur doosri jinsi sargarmi jis kay nateejey mein aurat orgasm hasil karey, bachna chahiyie kyun kay orgasm ki hamil jinsi sargarmi sey miscarriage ka khatra barh jata hai.  Iss tarah kuch doosrey maahireen kay mutabiq hamal kay aakhri 6 hafton mein behter yehi hai kay mubashrat na ki jaey aakhri hafton mein mubashrat ki wajah sey labor pains (labor ka dard) pehley shuru ho sakta hai iss tarah bacha waqt sey pehley paeda ho jata hai. Hamal kay 6 maah pehley tak to aam haalaat ki tarah mubashrat ki jasakti hai aur itni hi baar ki ja sakti hai jitni bar pehley hoti rahi hai albatta aakhri maah perhaez karna behter hai iss doran biwi khawand ko mutabadil jinsi tariqon (sexual satisfaction alternatives) sey jinsi sukoon muhayya kar sakti hai.

Hamal kay doran khusoosan aakhri mahinon mein mubashrat ka missionary tariqa yani aurat neechey waley tariqey ko bilkul tark kardiya jaey albatta ibteda'ee dinon mein ek do maah yeh tariqa istaemaal kya ja sakta hai. Hamal kay doran mubashrat ki sab sey behter position pehlu ba pehlu (side by side) hai iss kay elawa aagey peechey wala tariqa (rear entry) bhi ikhtiyar kya ja sakta hai. Hamal kay aakhri chund hafton kay doran missionary tariqa ikhtiyar karney sey jhilli qabal az waqt phatt jati hai aur bachey ki paeda'esh qabal az waqt ho jati hai. Delivery kay ba'ad aurat kay jinsi radd e amal mein 50 % kam aa jati hai magar 3 hafton kay ba'ad uski jinsi khwahish wapis aa jati hai aur woh normal ho jati hai jaisa kay pehley bataya ja chuka hai Master & Johnson kay mutabiq delivery kay 3 hafton kay ba'ad mubashrat ki ja sakti hai lekin agar aurat ko khoon aa raha ho ya operation hua ho to khoon kay bund honay aur zakhm kay mundamil honay ka intezar karna chahiyie.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR 2013 MESSAGES AND POETRY HINDI URDU

HAPPY NEW YEAR MESSAGES AND POETRY URDU HINDI

 ZARA SA MUSKURA DENA TUM AB NAYE SAAL SE PEHLAY PEH;LAY

Zara sa muskura dena tum ab naye sal se pehlay pehlay

Har ek gham kO bhula dena tum ab naye saal se pehlay pehlay...
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Na sOchO k kis ne dil dukhaya....
Har ek kO muaf kar dena naye sal se pehlay pehlay...
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Kia pata phir mOqa na mil paye humain...
Is liye dil kO tum saaf ker lena naye sal se pehlay pehlay...!!!

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Makki ko Roti, Nimbu ka aachar

Makki ko Roti, Nimbu ka aachar
Suraj ki Kirnain khushiyo ki bahar
Chand ke chandni,App ko pyar
Mubarik ho App ko yeh naya saal
***Happy***New***Year...!!!

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I am Sorry

I am Sorry
Ek Buri Khabar Hai
Mujhy Bhool Jana PLz...
Main Kuch Dino K Baad
Tumhy Hamesha K Liye
Chor Kr Chala Jaonga
Tumhara Apna
 Year 2012
But
Tumhy Aik Naya DOST De Kr
 Ja Raha HoOn
 Year 2013
 So enjOy With It...!!!

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Har sal hum kuch sOchtay hain...!!!

har sal hum kuch sochtey hein
kabhi tum ko door
kabhi pass patey hein
har sal tumhe kuch naya deney ki try kartey hein
aur sal gift aur dua detey hein
happy new year.

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Aaj K baad naya saal aaye ga

Aaj k baad naya saal aayega
Bapu ne bola hai k network jam hoga
to apun aajhi vinamrata se wish kar rela hai
bole to Happy New year...!!!

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(HAVING A SON) BETA HI PAIDA HO GA

(HAVING A SON)

BETA HI PAIDA HO GA

Dunya mein taqreeban her insaan ki khwahish hai kay Khuda usey beta (son) dey iss kay liye insaan har tarah kay paparr baelney kay liye tayyar ho jata hai dam o durood kay elawa dunya mein betey kay husool kay liye bohut seh tariqey raa'ej hain iss waqt jo tariqa sab seh kamyab hai woh 'MicroSort' ka tariqa kehlata hai. Iss mein betey waley sperm alaehda kar kay unko baeza kay sath mila diya jata hai iss surat mein nateeja 100% hota hai. Yeh tariqa bohut mehnga hai Pakistani rupees mein iss ki qeemat 30 lacs banti hai. Ek aur mu'asser tariqa 'Dr. Shettle's Method' hai jisko ek American doctor Landrum B. Shettles ney daryaft kya. Iski kaamyaabi ki sharah 90 % hai iss kay elawa kuch maahireen ek khaas qism ki khooraak tajweez kartey hain inn kay da'awey kay mutabiq iss tariqey ki kaamyaabi ki sharah 80% hai.

Reproduction in humans

Bachey ki takhleeq baap kay sperm aur maan kay baezey kay milaap sey hoti hai baap kay sperm mein X aur Y chromosome hotey hain jab kay maan kay baezey mein sirf X chromosome hotey hain. Y chromosome chotey aur naazuk hotay hain inki quwwat-e-mudafe'at bhi kam hoti hai jab kay X chromosome nisbatan barey aur mazboot hotey hain inn ki quwwat-e-mudafe'at bhi zyada hoti hai yeh sukht jaan bhi hotey hain. Jab baap ki taraf sey Y chromosome maan kay X chromosome kay sath milap karta hai to larka paeda hota hai aur jab walid ki taraf sey X chromosome maan kay X chromosome kay sath milap karta hai to larki paeda hoti hai iss sey ma'aloom hua kay aulaad ki jins ka inhisaar mard per hai na kay aurat per. Dr. Shettles kay tariqa kaar ki bunyaad iss baat per hai kay mubashrat jitni ovulation (baeza raezi) kay qareeb hogi utna hi betey kay imkaanaat zyada hongey iss kay elawa ba'az doosrey anasir bhi bohut ahem hain maslan sperm ki ta'adaad (sperm count) agar zyada hogi to larkey kay imkaanaat zyada hongey aur agar sperm ki ta'adaad kam hogi to larki kay imkaanaat zyada ho jatey hain. Isi tarah agar aurat mein taezaabiyat zyada ho to naazuk Y chromosome mar jaeingey jab kay X chromosome zinda rahengey to iss surat mein larki kay imkaanaat zyada hongey iss kay elawa mubashrat ka tariqa bhi ahem hai mubashrat ka aisa tariqa ikhtiyar kya jaey jis mein sperm qazif naaliyon mein chaley jaein hum Shettles ka tariqa istaemaal kartey hain humari apni kaamyaabi ki sharah 90% sey zyada hai.

Diet Plan For Pregnancy:

Hum apney tariqey mein khooraak ko bhi shamil kartey hain yeh khooraak ahem mubashrat sey pehley kam az kam 6 hafton kay liye istaemaal ki jaey.

1. Inn cheezon ka zyada istemaal kya jaey: gandum, aaloo, aaloo kay chips aur kaeley
2. Mundarja zael ka istaemaal mufeed hai: Gosht, Andey, Machli, Chawal, Lassi, Baengan, Piyaz, Lehsen, Subz mirch, Kashmiri mirch, Hari phalyan, Dhanya, Kheera, Kaddu, Tindey, Makaee kay taaza bhuttey, Kachey timater, Aaloo bukharey, Aam, Amrood, Anannaas, Angoor, Pista, Tarbooz, Jamun, Kharbooza, Khoobani, Kiinoo, Kiinoo ka juice, Saeb, Faalsa, Leechi, Malta, Aaroo, Amreeci Kharbooza. 
3. Mandarja zael ka istaemaal kam kiya jaey: coca cola, pepsi, masaley
4. Mandarja zael ko bilkul istaemaal na kiya jaey: Mithaaeyaan, chocolate, cigarette, tambacoo, sharaab, icecream, cake, pastry, biscuit, poori, parathey, taez masaley, zyada tael wali cheezein, chilghozey, moong phalli, akhrot, naariyal, khushk injeer, makkhan, doodh khusoosan gaey ka doodh, dahi, paneer, khoya, kheer, shakarqandi, daalein, lobiya, soya bean, baking soda, gobhi, shaljam, bhindi, khajur, palak, salad kay pattey.
5. Thori miqdaar mein chaey aur shahed ka istaemaal mufeed hai magar zyada istemaal na karein
6. Salan waghaera sunflower oil mein pakaein.
7. Yeh khooraak donon mian biwi kay liye hai.

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PAINLESS DELIVERY (DARD K BAGHAIR DELIVERY)

PAINLESS DELIVERY

(DARD K BAGHAIR DELIVERY)

Shaadi kay ba'ad aurat ki sab sey bari khwahish yeh hoti hai kay woh jald maa'n baney ek taraf usey bachey ki shadeed khwahish hoti hai doosri taraf paeda'esh kay amal ka shadeed khauf. Agarcha amooman labor ka dard bohut takleef deh nahin hota magar iss dard ka khauf la'shaoori tor per nasal dar nasal muntaqil hota aa raha hai iss khauf ki wajah sey kuch khawateen haamla nahin hotiin aur bohut si haamla 9 mahiney isi khauf ka shikaar rehti hain jis ki wajah sey woh depression aur tashweesh mein mubtala ho jati hain. Inn mein sey bohut si khawateen ka blood pressure buland ho jata hai jis ki wajah sey hamal aur zichgi mein paecheedgiyan paeda ho jati hain hamal kay doran mein maa'n ki zehni kaifiyat bachey kay zehen aur nafsiyat ko bohut muta'assir karti hai. Isi liye kaha jata hai kay hamal kay doran main maa'n ko har fikr sey azaad ho kar hashaash bashaash aur khush o khurram rehna chahiyie lekin woh bohut si maa'ein jo hamal kay doran mein khauf ka shikar rehti hain unki yeh zehni kaifiyat unn kay bachon ki shakhsiyat ki normal nashaunuma mein bohut bari rukawat hoti hai jis ki wajah sey yeh bachey barey ho kar bohut sey nafsiyati masail ka shikar ho jatey hain. Taqreeban 50% aurtein hamal kay foran ba'ad matli mehsoos karti hain, ba'az ko ultiyan aaney lagti hain nateejatan unko hospital mein daakhil hona parta hai teen mein sey do khawateen ko seeney mein jalan mehsoos hoti hai ba'az khawateen ko qabz ki shikayat ho jati hai hamal kay doran bey khwabi ka masla bhi aam hai bohut si khawateen jismaani thakawat aur tension mehsoos karti hain inn tamam masail kay hal kay liye adviyat Khusoosan sukoon aawar adviyat istemaal ki jati hain jin kay burey asraat bachon tak pohonchtey hain.

Labor Pains - Labor Ka Dard

Labor pains (labor ka dard) to taqreeban har aurat mehsoos karti hai koi kam aur koi zyada yeh dard har aurat ko bardaasht karna hi parta hai iss dard ko control karney kay liye amooman adviyat kay istaemaal sey guraez kya jata hai kyun kay iss surat mein adviyat ka istaemal nuqsandeh ho sakta hai. Isi tarah paeda'esh kay aakhri marhaley main maa'n ko bohut takleef hoti hai iss aakhri dard ko control karney kay liye amooman bey hiss karney wali adviyat istaemaal ki jati hain jo ba'az auqaat bohut nuqsan deh sabit hoti hain aaj kal iss dard ko control karney kay liye kamar mein teeka lagaya jata hai jis ka apna dard hai.

Hypnotherapy Kay Fawa'ed

Hypnotherapy ki madad sey 95% sey zyada khawateen apni tension, khauf aur khadshaat ko control kar sakti hain iss ki madad sey khawateen apney aap ko pursukoon aur relax karsakti hain jiski wajah sey blood pressure, depression, tashweesh kay masail amooman paeda hi nahin hotey taa'hum agar yeh masail paeda bhi ho jaein to hypnotherapy ki madad sey in ko aasani sey control kya ja sakta hai. Matli, ultiya'n, seeney ki jalan haamla khawateen kay ahem masail hain 75% khawateen hypnotherapy ki madad sey inko aasaani sey control karsakti hain qabz aur bey khwabi kay masail ko bhi aasani sey hal kya ja sakta hai iss tarah khawateen aur unn kay bachey adviyat kay burey asraat sey mehfooz rehtey hain. Zichgi ka ahem marhala labor pain ka hai jo ghanton jari rehta hai hypnotherapy ki madad sey labor pain kay waqt mein 4 ghanty tak kami ki ja sakti hai iss marhaley main haamla 'shakhsi hypnotism' ki madad sey apney dard ko bohut kam kar leti hai.  (mukammal khatam karna munasib nahin hota agarcha dard ko mukammal khatam kya ja sakta hai) woh dard ki bajaey ma'amooli daba'u mehsoos karti hai phir aakhri marhaley mein mareeza khud hi apney jism kay paeda'esh sey muta'alliq hisson ko baghaer kisi dawa kay sunn karleti hai jis ki wajah sey bacha baghaer kisi dard kay paeda'esh ki naali sey baher aa jata hai. Bachey ki paeda'esh kay ba'ad hypnotism ki wajah sey mareeza gehri aur pursukoon neend mein chali jati hai aur baedaar honay per bohut khush o khurram, pursukoon aur relax mehsoos karti hai woh kisi qism ki thakawat mehsoos nahin karti kyun kay iss surat mein koi teeka ya dawa istaemaal nahin hoti le'haza mareeza aur bacha dawa kay har qism kay muzir asraat sey mehfooz hotey hain. Iss tariqey sey tamam khawateen mukammal tor per mustafeed nahin hotiin ta'hum 70% khawateen dard ko mukammal tor per control karleti hain jab kay 90% tension, khauf, seeney ki jalan aur neend kay masail ko control kar leti hain.   Hypnotherapy ka ek aur ahem faeda yeh bhi hai kay iss ki madad sey mareeza hamal ka sara arsa bohut pursukoon aur relax rehti hai jis ki wajah sey uss ki chaati mein doodh bhi khoob jama hota hai chuna'cha bachey ko khoob paet bhar kar doodh milta hai yeh baat sabit ho chuki hai kay khauf aur tension ki wajah sey na sirf maa'n ki chati mein doodh kam paeda hota hai bul kay abortion ka khatra bhi barh jata hai. Hypnotherapy ki wajah sey chu'nkay haamla majmooee tor per bohut pursukoon hoti hai jis ki wajah sey na sirf abortion ka khatra kam ho jata hai bul kay operation kay imkanaat bhi bohut kam ho jatey hain. Aur agar operation ho bhi to hypnotism ki wajah sey zakham taezi sey mundamil ho jatey hain hum Pakistan mein iss tariqey ko kamyaabi kay sath istaemaal kar rahey hain behter yehi hai kay hamal kay ibteda'ee dinon sey hi   Iss tareeqey sey faeda uthaya jaey taa'hum iss tareeqey sey kisi bhi waqt faeda uthaya ja sakta hai. Bachey ki paedaesh kay ba'ad taqreeban 50 ta 80% khawateen depression ka shikar ho jati hain jiss mein woh shadeed udaasi aur afsurdagi mehsoos karti hain unki neend kam ho jati hain bhook nahin lagti aur amooman jinsi khwahish kam ho jati hai ba'az auqaat yeh depression kaee maah tak jari rehta hai, iss silsiley mein kisi achey doctor sey raabta kya jaey.

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PREGNANCY (HAMAL) IN URDU HINDI

PREGNANCY (HAMAL)

Shaadi kay baad har larkey larki ki khwahish hoti hai kay woh jald az jald waledaen ban jaein unki khwahish to kam hoti hai magar azeez o aqarib khusoosan larkey larki kay waledaen ki khwahish zyada. Lekin humari tajweez hai kay pehley ek do saal bacha nahin hona chahiyie taa'kay dulha dulhan azdawaji zindagi kay sukoon aur lazzat sey khoob lutf andoz ho lein. Baqi sari umar bachey hi paeda karney hain iss kay elawa agar mian biwi mein nachaaqi ho jaey to alaehdgi mein aasani hogi na kay bachon ki wajah sey sari zindagi azaab mein guzrey, kyun kay mahireen ki ra'ey hai kay na khushgawar shaadi sey khushgawar alaehdgi behter hai bachey ki paedae'sh kay ba'ad aurat maa'n ban jati hai aur zyada tawajjuh bachey ko deti hai jab kay khawand ko ek biwi ki zaroorat hoti hai behter hai kay biwi ki umar 35 saal honay sey pehley khandan ko mukammal kar liya jaey iss umr kay bachey amooman sehatmand hotey hain. Mahireen ka khayal hai kay maa'n aur bachon ki achi sehat kay liye bachon ki paedae'sh mein kam az kam do/dha'ee saal ka waqfa hona chahiyie. Quran majeed sey bhi yehi ishara milta hai warna maa'n kay liye bachon ki achi parwarish karna mushkil ho jata hai.

Dekha gaya hai kay agar bachey jaldi jaldi paeda hun to humarey haan ek aadh bacha nanhiyaal mein parwarish paata hai wahan ya to usko zaroorat sey zyada tawajjuh aur mohabbat milti hai ya phir poori tawajjuh aur mohabbat nahin milti donon surton mein bacha ba'az nafsiyati masail ka shikar ho jata hai.

Aurat kay haamla honay kay liye mandarja zael shara'et ka poora hona zaroori hai. 

• Mani faraj kay ander daakhil ho.
• Mani mein kam az kaz 2 crore sehat mund nutfey mojood hun.
• Nutfo'n (sperms) kay liye faraj ka mahol aisa ho jis mein woh zinda reh sakein agar aurat ki faraj mein taezaabiyat zyada hogi to nutfey marr jatey hain aur bachey paeda nahin ho saktey.
• Sperms bacha daani khusoosan muta'alliqa qazif naali mein pohonch jaein.
• Sperm baaraawari kay liye baeza paa lein.
• Baar aawari kay ba'ad baeza bacha daani (uterus) mein aa jaey.

  Jab mian biwi mubashrat kartey hain to khawand kay inzal honay sey amooman 3.5 milliliter mani (seminal fluid) biwi ki faraj mein jati hai jis mein ausatan 30, 40 crore sperm mojood hotey hain inn mein kuch sehatmand hotey hain aur kuch ghaer sehatmand yeh sperms faraj mein sey hotey huey bacha daani aur phir qazif naaliyon (fallopian tubes) mein jatey hain jahan hamal theherta hai. Agarcha hamal kay liye sirf ek sehatmund sperm ki zaroorat hoti hai magar ek sperm ka andey ko baaraawar karney kay liye mard ki mani mein kam az kam 2 crore kay lug bhug sehatmand sperm mojood hun. Iss surat mein amooman larki paeda hoti hai hota yeh hai kay mard kay inzal kay ba'ad kuch mani faraj sey baher beh jati hai faraj mein sey hotey huey sperm bacha daani mein jatey hain bohut sey sperms faraj ki taezabiyat ki wajah sey mar jatey hain. Bohut sey sperm raastey mein hi mar jatey hain. Jo aagey jatey hain unn mein sey aadhey ghalat tube mein chaley jatey hain kyun kay anda ek tube mein hota hai kis tube mein hai sperm ko iska ilm nahin hota iss tarah 30, 40 crore sperms mein sey sirf 2 hazar kay lug bhug sperm andey tak pohonchtey hain aur inn mein sey ek andey ko baar aawar karta hai. Aurat ki faraj kay khatmey per bacha daani (uterus) hoti hai jis mein bachey ki nashonuma hoti hai bachey daani ka munh faraj mein khulta hai bachey daani kay donon taraf daaei'n baae'in 2 naaliyan hoti hain inko qazif naaliyan (fallopian tubes) kaha jata hai.

Yeh naaliyan ek taraf bacha daani sey mili hoti hain aur doosrey sirey per do baeza daaniyon sey mili hoti hain baeza daaniyon mein laakhon ki ta'adaad mein baezey (andey) hotey hain har maah sirf ek hi andey ki nashonuma hoti hai, yeh baeza kisi ek baeza daani mein tayyar hota hai qudrati tor per har maah bari bari sey baeza daaniyon mein sey kisi ek mein sey baeza nikalta hai baeza rezi kay waqt anda kisi ek baeza daani sey nikal kar muta'alliqa qazif naali mein aa jata hai, doosri taraf sey mard ka nutfa aata hai donon kay milaap sey hamal theherta hai ju'nhi baeza aur sperm miltey hain to phir yeh bacha daani mein aa jatey hain jahan bachey ki parwarish hoti hai. Nutfa faraj mein 6 ghantey zinda reh sakta hai aur jab yeh bachey daani mein daakhil hota hai wahan 3 ta 5 din bul kay zyada bhi zinda reh sakta hai doosri taraf agar baeza raezi kay qareeb mubashrat hogi to hamal kay imkaanaat barh jatey hain. Waisey agar baqa'eda mubashrat ho to ek maah mein aurat kay hamla honey kay imkaanaat 60% hain (yani ek din chor ker ya rozana mubashrat ki jaey taa'hum ek din chor kar zyada mufeed hai).

SPERM TYPES

sperm ki 2 types hoti hain

1. X and
2. Y

X barey magar sust raftaar lekin qadrey sukht jaan hotey hain iss kay muqabiley main Y chotey magar taez raftaar lekin naazuk hotey hain sperm ki ta'adaad (sperm count) zyada ho to Y zyada hotey hain aur beta paeda honey kay imkaanaat zyada hotey hain agar sperm ki majmooee ta'adaad kam ho to X ki ta'adaad zyada hogi aur beti paeda honay kay imkaanaat zyada hongey. Isi liye 2 ya 3 crore sperm per amooman betiyan paeda hoti hain. Aam haalaat mein 2 crore sey kam sperm hun to aulaad paeda nahin hoti albatta test tube ki surat mein 50 hazar sperm hun to bhi aulaad paeda ho jati hai magar kaamyaabi ki sharah 25% kay lug bhug hoti hai lekin yeh amooman larkiyan hoti hain. Beta paeda karney ka inhisaar mard kay sperm Y per hota hai jab kay aurat kay paas sirf XX hi hotey hain albatta aisa bhi hota hai kay aurat ki faraj ki taezabiyat ki wajah sey nazuk Y jald mar jatey hain.

Bachey leney kay liye mubashrat baeza rezi kay qareeb ho hamal kay liye missionary tariqa zyada munasib hai yani aurat neechey ho, uski kamar kay neechey takya ho aur mard ooper ho aur dakhool gehra ho, iss kay liye biwi ki taangein khawand kay kandhon per hun inzal kay ba'ad khawand zakar ko foran baher na nikal ley warna mani ka bohut sa hissa faraj sey baher aa jaey ga aur sperm ki miqdaar kam ho jaey gi aur hamal ka imkaan kam ho jaey ga. Behter hai kay zakar khud hi sukarr kar baher aaey inzal kay ba'ad agar aurat isi haal mein ek ghanta leti rahey to hamal kay imkaanaat barh jatey hain. Baeza raezi jan'ney kay ka'ee tariqey hain ak bohut acha tariqa lu'aab-e-rahem ka tariqa hai. Lu'aab e rahem anda banney sey kuch din pehley shuru ho jata hai.
Shuru mein lua'ab miqdaar mein kam, garha, kam laes daar (mawad ko ungli aur angoothey sey taar bananey ki koshish karein to taar na baney gi) rung creamy, peela aur gadla sa za'eqa badbuudaar aur namkeen sa hota hai ju'n ju'n baezey key ikhraj ka din qareeb aaey ga yeh mawad miqdaar mein zyada, patla, laes daar, taardaar, shaffaf aur bey rung hota jaey ga hutta kay ikhraj baeza sey ek din pehley aur ikhraj waley din mawad miqdaar mein zyada, bohut patla, kachey andey ki tarah shaffaf, bey rung, laes daar aur taardaar hoga. Mawad ko ungli aur angoothey mein ley kar taar banaein to taar baghaer tootey duur tak chali jaegi iss mein halki si mithaas ki buu hoti hai magar ba'az auqaat baeza rezi waley din yeh bey rung honey ki bajaey doodhiya cream rung ka hota hai. Ba'ad az'an yeh lua'ab ek dum garha, gadla aur khushk ho jata hai aur miqdaar bhi kam ho jati hai ba'az aurton ka yeh mawad zyada hota hai aur ba'az ka kam.
Lua'ab-e-rehem hasil karney aur check karney ka tareeqa yeh hai kay maahwaari khatam honey kay ba'ad har peeshaab kay ba'ad istanja karney sey pehley check kya jaey iss kay liye aap peeshab kay liye bathroom jatey waqt tissue paper sath ley jaein aur peeshaab kay ba'ad faraj kay mu'nh ko tissue sey saaf karein to mawad tissue per lag jaey ga. Aap isey check karein ba'az khawateen mein yeh mawad peeshab kay ba'ad nahin bul kay pakhaney kay ba'ad zahir hota hai iss surat mein pakhaney kay ba'ad istanja karney sey pehley tissue sey faraj ko saaf karein aur lua'ab ko check karlein amooman maahwaari khatam honey kay foarn ba'ad yeh zahir nahin hota bul kay ek haftey kay ba'ed zahir hona shuru hota hai lekin yeh zaroori nahin.

OVULATION DATE CHECK KARNA:

Is ko check karney ka behter tariqa yeh hai kay mahwaari khatam honay per rozana kisi ek muqarrar waqt per check karein yani har peeshaab kay ba'ad check karney ki zarooat nahin lekin jab ek baar yeh zahir ho jaey to phir har peshaab kay ba'ad check karein mawad ko check karty waqt teen cheezo'n ko khusoosi ahmiyat di jaey:

• Wetness_ mawad patla hai ya gaarha.
• Stretch ability_ mawad laes daar hai ya ghaer laes daar yani iss sey taar banti hai ya nahin.
• Mawad rung daar hai ya bey rung yani shaffaf ya gadla. 

Miqdaar ki zyada ahmiyat nahin jab yeh mawad bohut patla ho to iss kay aakhri hissey mein mawad kay garha honay sey pehlay mubashrat ki jaey iss kay liye ek maah sirf tajurba karein aur dekhein kay aap ka mawad kitni der patla rehta hai, agley maah isi ko samney rakhtey huey uss waqt mubashrat karein jab yeh bohut patla, laesdaar, taardaar aur kachey andey ki tarah shaffaf ya cream rung ya lotion ki tarah ho.
Iss kay agley din bhi mubashrat karli jaey ek ehtiyat ki jaey kay mawad kay zahir honay kay ba'ad mubashrat na ki jaey taa'kay mard ki mani ki miqdaar zyada ho miqdaar zyada hogi to sperm ki miqdaar bhi zyada hogi aur bacha paeda honay kay imkaan bhi zyada hongay. Mahwaari khatam honay kay ek haftey ba'ad ek din chor kar mubashrat sey bhi hamal kay imkaanaat barh jatey hain yeh amal mahwaari shuru honay sey ek hafta pehley tak jari rahey.

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BHARPOOR AZDAWAJI LUTF

BHARPOOR AZDAWAJI LUTF

Mukhtalif survey aur tehqeeqaat sey yeh baat samney aaee hai kay 90% mian biwi kay jhagrey ghaer mutawazii mubashrat ka nateeja hain, shaadiyon ki nakaami aur azdawaji jhagron ki sab sey bari wajah jinsi adum itmenaan hai. Khawand ko ilm nahin kay biwi ko kaise mutma'en karna hai aur biwi ko ilm nahin kay mian ko zyada jinsi sukoon kaisey muhayya karna hai. Ek aur research mein 60% mardon ney bataya kay woh unn aurton sey burhum hotey hain, unn per ghussa aata hai aur woh mushta'il ho jatey hain jo sex kay doran thandi hoti hain aur sex mein adum dilchaspi ka izhaar karti hain. Doosri taraf yeh baat bhi samney aaee hai kay woh shaadi jis mein sex bharpoor ho woh zyada khushgawar aur derpaa hoti hai yani jinsi zindagi khushyon ka ek ahem kulya hai. Doosrey alfaaz mein azdawaji zindagi ko khushgawar aur purjosh bananey kay liye sex ka kirdaar bunyadi hai doosri taraf iss baat per bhi taqreeban tamam mahireen muttafiq hain kay khushgawar zindagi ki bunyad khushgawar azdawaji zindagi hai. Quran majeed mein irshad hai kay "phir azdawaji zindagi ka lutf tum inn sey uthao" (al nisa 24) badqismati sey humarey haan aksaryat azdawaji zindagi kay jaez lutf sey bhi mehroom hai. 90% logon khusoosan aurton ko ilm hi nahin kay azdawaji zindagi ko kaisey purlutf banaya ja sakta hai iss kay liye ilm ki zaroorat hai aap sex sex kay barey mein jitni zyada ma'aloomaat hasil karein aur unko istimaal karein azdawaji zindagi khushgawar hogi.
Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa sey sawal kya gaya kay mard kay liye apni aurat sey jab kay woh haez ki haalat mein ho kis qadar ki ijazat hai farmaya kay uss kay liye sab kuch rawa hai siwaey uss ki sharam gaah kay. (ibn kaseer)
Hazrat Ayesha farmati hain kay mein aur RasoolAllah ek bartan mein ghusal kartey aur hum donon napaak hotey aur aap mujh ko hukum detey pus mein aap ka tehband baandh leti pus lagatey aap apney jism ko merey jism sey yani tehbandh kay ooper ooper aur mein haez ki haalat mein hoti. (bukhari, muslim)
Ahaadees aur Quran majeed sey ma'aloom hota hai kay azdawaji zindagi mein islam mein wazeh tor per teen cheezon ko haram qarar diya gaya hai ek maq'ad, doosra haez aur teesra nifas mein mubashrat.

SHADI KA MAQSAD:

Shaadi kay bunyadi do maqaasid hain nasl e insani ki baqa aur jinsi sukoon ka husool. Sex ka aksar auqaat maqsad aulaad ka husool nahin bul kay lutf o sukoon hota hai aur iss kay liye mubashrat zaroori nahin bul kay jinsi sukoon ko kaee tariqon sey hasil kya ja sakta hai. 
Inn tariqon ko haez, hamal aur bachey ki paeda'esh kay ba'ad aur aam haalaat mein bhi istimaal kya ja sakta hai maslan ba'az auqaat biwi kisi wajah sey nahana nahin chahti. Shaandaar azdawaji zindagi kay liye inn tariqon ki tafseel humari doosri post "Azdawaji Khushyan…Mardo'n Kay Liye" sey dekh lijiyie.  Yeh kitaab chun'kay khawateen kay liye likhi gaee hai iss liye iss mein zyada ter aisi ma'aloomaat fraham ki gaee hain jin ki madad sey biwiyan azdawaji zindagi mein apna kirdaar ada kar sakein gi.

Bharpoor azdawaji khushyon kay hawaley sey fitri tor per mard aur aurat ki tarjeehaat mein farq hai. 'For women, love opens the door of sex, for men, sex is the doorway to love.' Aam mahireen ka khayal hai kay aurat mohabbat aur romance ki khwahaan hai iss kay husool kay liye woh khawand ko sex deti hai jab kay mard bunyadi tor per sex chahta hai, iss kay liye woh biwi sey mohabbat karta hai. Taa'hum ba'az doosrey mahireen ka khayal hai kay aurat bhi sex ki itni hi shauqeen hai jitney mard, farq sirf yeh hai kay mard sex kay liye foran tayyar ho jata hai jab kay aurat ko iss kay liye kam az kam aadha ghanta chahiyie.

BHARPOOR AZDWAJI KHUSHIYON K LIYE CHAND EHAM BATAIN

Bharpoor azdawaji khushyon kay liye zaroori hai kay mian biwi shaadi kay ibteda'ee dino'n hi mein ek doosrey ki pasand, na pasand aur tarjeehaat sey aagaah ho jaein aap apni jinsi zarooriyaat (sexual needs) aur tarjeehaat sey apney khawand ko aagaah karein. Amooman aurton ka khayal hota hai kay mard ko ilm hota hai kay behetren azdawaji zindagi kay liye kya karney ki zarorat hai jab kay mard ko ilm nahin hota. Sex kay tamaam mahireen iss baat per muttafiq hain aur israar kartey hain kay mian biwi ko sex kay hawaley sey apni pasand aur na pasand sey ek doosrey ko aagaah karna chahiyie taa kay donon apni apni pasand ki cheez hasil karlein magar aisa kya nahin jata.
Bul kay bohut sey logon ko to ilm hi nahin hota kay woh sex mein kya chahtey hain iss hawaley sey mard khaas tor per hassas hai woh chahta hai kay uski biwi usey bataey kay woh kya chahti hai khawand biwi ko woh cheez muhayya kar kay bey inteha khushi mehsoos karta hai. Le'haza yeh cheez azdawaji khushyon ki jaan hai kay aap khul kar apney mian ko bataein kay aap kya chahti hain foreplay mein aap ko kis cheez ki zaroorat hai, mubashrat mein app ko kya pasand hai.
Humarey haan ghaer zaroori sharm o haya ki wajah sey donon mian biwi apni pasand, tarjeehaat aur jinsi zarooriyat (sexual needs) sey ek doosrey ko aagaah nahin kartey agar aap ko bhi yehi masla hai to iss ka ek hul yeh hai kay pehley tasawwuraat mein mushq karein yani aap tasawwur karein kay aap apni zarooriyaat sey apney mian ko aagaah kar rahi hain, bari tafseel kay sath tasawwur karein, ka'ee din ki mushq kay ba'ad jab aap tasawwuraat mein batatey huey jhijhak mehsoos na karein to phir haqeeqat mein mian ko apni pasand aur na pasand sey aagah karein yeh guftugoo aap mubashrat kay foran ba'ad kar sakti hain behter hai kay uss waqt karein jab aap donon pursukoon hun, mian ko ilzaam na dein, tanqeed na karein agar aap apney jazbat aur ehsasaat ek doosrey sey chupaein gey to saari zindagi bharpoor jinsi lutf sey mehroom rahein gey.
Agar aap apney mian sey sex kay mozou per khul kar baat nahin kar sakti hain to aap ek aur tariqey sey bhi apni zarooriyat sey khawand ko aagaah kar sakti hain maslan jo cheezein aap ko kam mil rahi hain ya nahin mil rahiin iss hawaley sey mian ko ek khwab sunaein usey bataein kay aap ko khwab aaya jis mein khawand aap kay sath woh sab kuch kar raha tha, jo aap chahti hain.
 Usey tafseel kay sath bataein, usey yeh bhi bataein kay yeh sab aap ko itna acha laga kay aap jaag uthiin iss khwab kay ba'ad agar agley jinsi amal mein aapko yeh sab kuch mil jaey to haeraani ki koi baat nahin. Iss kay elawa aap apney mian ko likh kar bhi apni zarooriyat sey aagaah kar sakti hain, chit uski jaeb mein daal dein, uskay takyay kay neechey rakh dein usey yeh sab cheezein aap ko muhayya kar kay bey inteha khushi hogi. Kisi bhi andaz sey khawand ko apni zarooriyat sey aagaah kartey huey ek cheez ka khaas khayal rakhein kay jo cheezein woh karta hai aur aap ko pasand hain unn kay hawaley sey usey bataein kay woh cheezein aapko bey panaah lutf deti hain, woh cheezein aaenda aapko zyada mileingi, jo cheezein aap chahti hain magar hasil nahin hotiin kyun kay aap ney khawand ko bataya hi nahin iss hawaley sey iss tarah baat karein kay jaise woh aap ko pehley hi mil rahi hain maslan aap chahti hain kay mian zyada der tak aap kay nipples choosey to aap usay bataein kay guzishta raat ya parson uss ney aap kay nipples ko zyada der tak choosa to aap ko bey panaah lutf aaya, umeed hai kay aaenda woh aisa hi karega. Mohabbat ki devi woh biwi banti hai jo apney jism kay asrar o ramooz sey khud poori tarah aagaah ho aur inn asrar o ramooz sey apney mian ko aagaah karey. Apney aap ko janney ki mushq "biwi ka apney jism ko jan'na" waley hissey mein di ja chuki hai.
Taa'hum agar sex kay hawaley sey khul kar baat karni mushkil hai likhna bhi aasaan nahin phir ek aur tariqa ikhtiyar kya ja sakta hai kay jinsi amal kay doran apni pasand ki position khud hi ikhtiyar karein jinsi amal aur foreplay kay doran pasandeeda amal per khushgawar aawaazein nikalein, aahein bharein, karaahein, ghurraei'n, cheekhein, chillaei'n, khawand samajh jaega kay yeh amal aap ko pasand hai to phir woh aaenda aisa hi karey ga.
 Agar khawand koi aisi cheez kar raha hai jo aap ko na pasand aur takleef deh hai to behtarin tariqa yeh hai kay aap usko lutf angaez cheez ki taraf ley jaein aap uss kay hath ko pakrein jahan aap chahti hain wahan ley jaein to woh foran samajh jaey ga kay aap ko kya pasand hai to phir wahi karega. Mian ko bataein kay guzishta raat humney mubashrat ki, meiney sex ko bohut enjoy kiya magar mein orgasm hasil na karsaki, iss sey mujhey mayoosi hui mera khayal hai kay orgasm kay liye mujhey clitoral stimulation (bazer kay ishtiaal) ki zyada zaroorat hai, taa'hum aap kisi aisi cheez ka mutaliba na karein jis sey aap kay mian ko bey aaraami aur takleef ho aur uss kay sath koi bhi aisa amal na karein jo woh nahin chahta, sex ek qeemti cheez hai jo mohabbat kay doran do log ek doosrey ko de saktey hain.
         Apni pasand aur zarooriyat bataney kay foran ba'ad mustaqil tabdeeli ki tawaqqa na rakhein aur pareshan na hun kyun kay tabdeeli kabhi raaton raat nahin aati maslan aap chahti hain kay aap kay mian zyada bos o kinar (kissing) karein, wa'adey kay bawajood woh bhool sakta hai kisi bhi purani aadat ko chorna mushkil hota hai shayad aap ko bar bar yad dahani karani parey gi magar yeh yad dahani mohabbat aur sukoon kay sath karaein na kay tulkhi kay sath, phir tabdeeli aa jaegi. 

        Apney aap sey bhi yeh sawal poochein: kya aap apney khawand ko waqa'ee mutmain karti hain? Agar jawab nahi mein hai to bhi pareshan na hun, uski zaroorat, pasand, na pasand aur tarjeehat jaanein kay aap ka khawand aap sey kya chahta hai phir wohi kuch aap usko dein woh aap ki pooja karey ga. 

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HUSBAND AND WIFE PROBLEMS OF FIRST INTERCOURSE

HUSBAND AND WIFE PROBLEMS OF FIRST INTERCOURSE

MALE PROBLEMS OF FIRST INTERCOURSE:

Pehli mubashrat mein mardo'n ko amooman do masail ka saamna karna parta hai kyun kay yeh unki pehli mubashrat hoti hai uski mani ki naaliyan (seminal vesicles) bhari hui hoti hain jo kay ma'amooli jinsi ishtiaal ki wajah sey mani ko baher nikal deti hain yani khawand ka inzal (discharge) jald ho jata hai ba'az auqaat to dakhool sey pehley hi mard manzil ho jata hai. Iss sey mard bohut zyada sharmindagi mehsoos karta hai jab kay yeh koi jismaani beemari nahin iss surat mein aap bhi jhunjhalaahat ka izhaar na karein thori der ba'ad woh phir tayyar ho jaey ga aur mubashrat karein iss bar uski kaarkardagi behter hogi aur aa'enda bhi rozana do baar mubashrat karein to khawand ki kaarkardagi bohut behter ho jaegi. Mu'aashrey mein pheli hui bey shumaar ghalat fehmiyo'n (misconception) (sex education….sab kay liye mein inka tafseeli zikr mojood hai) ki wajah sey aksar naujawaan ghalat tor per apney aap ko kamzor samajhtey hain aur unko mubashrat mein nakaami ka khauf hota hai aur iss khauf ki wajah sey ya to unko tana'u nahin hota ya kam hota hai ya phir dakhool sey pehley yakdam khatam ho jata hai, jis fard ko kabhi bhi tana'u (erection) ho woh bilkul normal hota hai, uska masla sirf nafsiyati hota hai. Aap khawand ki hosla afzaee karein aur tanzya fiqra na kahein warna woh humesha kay liye naa mard ho jaega, iss surat mein do haftey foreplay karein aur mubashrat sey mukammal parhaez karein woh bilkul theek ho jaega. Taa'hum agar woh humari kitab "Sex Education…Sab Kay Liye" parhley to uska masla jald hal ho jaey ga ba surat e deegar foran kisi achey mahir e nafsiyaat sey raabta karein.

FEMALE PROBLEMS OF FIRST INTERCOURSE:

Khawateen ki ek bari ta'adaad pehli mubashrat mein orgasm hasil nahin karti iss ka zimm e daar amooman mard nahin hota agarcha woh mard jo surat e inzal (premature ejaculation) ka shikar hotey hain amooman unki biwiyo'n ko orgasm hasil karney mein diqqat hoti hai taa'hum bohut si aurtein fitri tor per shaadi kay shuru mein orgasm hasil nahin kar patii'n. Ba'az ko to baqa'eda orgasm hasil karna seekhna parta hai. Orgasm (sexual climax) waley hissey mein iss mozou per tafseeli guftugoo ki gai hai parh le jiye ga.

Aurton ki ek bohut ma'amooli aqliyat mubashrat sey bohut zyada khaufzada hoti hai jis ki wajah sey mubashrat kay waqt unn ka jism khusoosan taangei'n akarr jati hain aur faraj ka mu'nh bilkul band ho jata hai jiski wajah sey dakhool na mumkin hojata hai yeh ek beemari (vaginismus) hai jis ka elaj bohut aasaan hai iss ka tafseeli zikr aagey aaey ga. Iss hawaley sey ek baat zehen mein rahey kay bazer kay ishtiaal sey faraj ka mu'nh tung ho jata hai jab kay faraj kay ishtiaal sey uska mu'nh tung honey ki bajaey relax ho jata hai doosrey alfaaz mein iss surat mein bazer ki bajaey faraj ko mushtail kya jaey.
Bohut si wajoohaat ki bina'a per bohut si aurton ka parda e bakarat (hymen) ya to khud ba khud phutt jata hai aur ba'az ka hota hi nahin yani parda e bakarat ki adam mojoodgi aurat ki asmat ki alamat nahin (mazeed tafseel kay liye dekhein "Sex Education ….Sab Kay Liye") lekin humarey haan aksar mard iss hawaley sey bohut hassas (concious) hain yani agar pehli mubashrat mein khoon na nikley to woh biwi ko paak daaman nahin samajhtey aur nobat talaaq tak pohonch jati hai. Haala'n kay biwi paak daaman hoti hai iss ka bara saada aur aasaan hull hai aap mubaashirat kay waqt ek common pin ya sui apney paas rakhein mubaashirat kay waqt uss sui ko apni ungli per maarein to uss sey khoon kay chund qatrey nikleingey uss khoon ko bister per laga dein khawand mutmain ho jaey ga.

KHAWATEEN KI JISMANI SAAKHT:

Jismaani saakht ki wajah sey ba'az khawateen ki faraj tung (tight) hoti hai aur ba'az ki qadrey dheeli (loose) jis mein dakhool aasaan hota hai aisi surat mein ba'az auqaat mard ko biwi ki paak daamini per shakk ho jata hai ba'az auqaat nobat talaaq tak pohonch jati hai. Iss pareshaani sey bachney kay liye mubaashirat sey pehley apni faraj ko phitkiri miley pani sey dho lein faraj tung ho jaegi ya phir PC muscles ki mushq sey dakhool kay waqt faraj kay mu'nh kay muscles ko bhee'nch lein to dakhool qadrey mushkil hoga. Iss tarah khawand kisi qism kay wahem mein na parey ga. PC muscles ki mushq ka zikr aagey aaey ga, kuch arsey pehley mujhey ek naujawaan ney shaadi kay doosrey din bohut pareshani kay aalam mein phone kya kay pehli mubaashirat mein faraj ka mu'nh tung na tha jis ki wajah sey dakhool bohut aasaan tha usko shakk tha kay kahiin uski biwi budkaar na ho aur pehley hi mubaashirat ka tajurba na kar chuki ho jab uss sey aurat kay jism ki saakht ki wazahat ki gaee to woh mutmain ho gaya ab hansi khushi zindagi basar kar raha hai.

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SHAADI KI PEHLI RAAT (SUHAAG RAAT)

SHAADI KI PEHLI RAAT (SUHAAG RAAT)

Humarey haan aksar yeh baat ma'aroof hai kay shaadi ki pehli raat mubashrat honi zaroori hai warna valima ja'ez na hoga haala'n kay Quran o sunnah ki roshni mein iss baat ki koi haqeeqat nahin humarey haan amooman nikah raat ko bohut late hota hai aur dulhan ko ghar pohonchtey pohonchtey raat kay do, dha'ee baj jatey hain iss doran donon thak kar chuur ho chukey hotey hain pehli raat donon thakawat, khauf, ghabraahat, nervousness aur hichkichahat ka shikar hota hai, khusoosan agar mian biwi pehley sey ek doosrey sey waqif na hun humarey haan aksar aisa hi hota hai larki apna ghar chor kar naey ghar aur naey logon mein aati hai usey khauf hota hai kay na janey susraal kay log kaisey hongey, khawand ka ravaiyya kaisa hoga. Doosri taraf larkey ko sex kay hawaley sey nakaami ka khauf hota hai kay aayah woh mubashrat kar sakey ga ya nahin larki ko bhi mubashrat ki takleef ka khauf hota hai iss khauf aur tashweesh ki wajah sey aurat ki faraj ka dahaana tung ho jata hai aur faraj kay ander chiknaahat ki kami ho jati hai, larka samajhta hai kay agar iss ney pehli raat mubashrat na kii to larki samjhey gi shayad mian iss qabil nahin haala'n kay jawani mein har mard jismani le'haz sey normal aur jinsi amal ka ahel hota hai albatta khauf aur zehni daba'u ki wajah sey ba'az auqaat tanau (erection) nahin hota ya aen moqa per khatam ho jata hai jo kay bilkul fitri amar hai kyun kay khauf aur zehni daba'u tanau kay dushman hain, le'haza iss surat e haal kay paesh e nazar pehli raat sex ko zyada ehmiat hasil nahin honi chahiyie chuna'ncha pehli raat mubashrat na karna donon kay liye mufeed hai.Behter hai kay pehli raat dulha aur dulhan gup shup lagaei'n ek doosrey sey waqif hun ek doosrey ko samjhein, ek doosrey ki pasand na pasand sey aagaahi hasil karein ek doosrey kay jazbaat aur ehsaasaat aur khwahishaat ko janei'n. Mubashrat kay elawa ka'ee doosrey tariqo'n sey jinsi lutf hasil kya ja sakta hai maslan pyar o muhabbat ki baatein, biwi mian ki taareef karey, bos o kinar sey lutf andoz hunm ek doosrey kay jism kay lums sey lazzat hasil karein, ek doosrey kay jism per hath phaerein, massage karein. Ek doosrey ko galey lagana, bhee'nchna, baghalgeer hona aur lipatna waghaera bohut lutf angaez hota hai aur phir ek doosrey sey lipat kar so jaei'n lekin agar donon ek doosrey sey waqif bhi hun to phir bhi pehli raat mubashrat karni zaroori nahin. Amooman thakawat ki wajah sey donon zyada lutfandoz nahin hotey taa'hum agar donon fresh hun, raazi hun ya khawand ka israar ho to aap inkaar na karein iss sey amooman tulkhi paeda ho jati hai. Ba'az auqaat yeh inkaar mustaqil tor per mian biwi kay ta'alluqaat mein zeher ghol deta hai. Waisey bhi Allah kay nabi kareem ne biwi ko inkaar karney sey sukhti sey mana farmaya hai aur aisi aurat per farishtey saari raat la'anat bhejtey hain chuna'ncha inn donon surto'n ein pehli mubashrat mein harj nahin aur iss sey lutfandoz honay ki koshish karein. Ta'hum behter yehi hai kay pehley do din ek doosrey ko samajhney, maanoos honay aur ek doosrey kay jazbaat, ehsaasaat, khwahishaat aur pasand, na pasand ko jan'ney mein guzarein inn dino'n mein mubashrat kay elawa mazkoora baala tariqo'n sey jinsi lutf hasil karein albatta jab bhi mubashrat karni ho to uski tayyari karein, din ko aaraam karein mian ki pasand kay pur kashish aur sexy kaprey pehnein. 

PREPARATION OF FIRST INTERCOURSE:

Halka sa makeup karlein, shaam ko khana halka aur jaldi kha lein kaam sey wapsi per mian ka muskuratey huey pur josh istaqbaal karein usey bataein kay aap ney uss kay intezar mein saara din bechaeni mein guzara. Shaam ko ghusl karlein, tooth brush karna na bhoolein apney jism aur libaas ko khawand ki pasand ki khushboo sey mu'atter karein, kamrey kay mahol ko khoobsurat aur purkashish banaein (mubashrat kay aadaab (preparation of intercourse) waley hissey ko ek baar phir parh lein).
Mubashrat sey kam az kam 20 ta 30 minute pehley mohabbat kay khel (foreplay) sey lutfandoz hun (tafseel kay liye 'mohabbat ka khel' waley hissey ka muta'alla karein) hatta kay aap ki faraj mein chiknaahat (lubrication) paeda ho jaey phir mubashrat kay tariqa number 1 ko istimaal kartey huey mubashrat karein, behter hai kay mian ka zakar bhi chikna ho iss tarah dakhool mein aasaani hogi aap ki taangei'n khuli magar zyada ooper na hun dakhool kay waqt apney jinsi lubo'n ko kholein aur zakar daakhil karney mein khawand ki madad aur rehnumaee karein. Iss kay liye zaroori hai kay aap ko khud bhi ilm ho kay faraj kahan hai, kuch aurtein dakhool kay waqt parda e bakarat (hymen) phatney per kuch dard mehsoos karti hain aur kuch khoon bhi nikalta hai magar uss kay sath bey panaah lutf bhi aata hai agar parda e bakarat pehley hi phata hua hai to takleef kam hoti hai, parda phatney ki surat mein dobara foran mubashrat na karein, zakhm ko ek aadh din kay liye mundamil honay dein amooman pehli mubashrat donon mian biwi kay liye kuch takleef deh hoti hai lekin agar khawand zakar ko chikna karley, tez jhatkey na lagaey aur aap jism khusoosan faraj kay baerooni muscles ko dheela chor dein to amooman mubashrat mein takleef nahin hoti. Pehli mubashrat ko aasaan bananey aur khauf ko khatam karney kay liye chund baar tasawwur mein mubashrat karlein iss sey aap ka khauf khatam ho jaey ga aur mubashrat aasaan hogi.

Ba'az auqaat faraj tung hoti hai ya dakhool kay waqt faraj ka mu'nh (entrance) wahan zyada khoon aa janey ki wajah sey sooj kar tung ho jata hai to aisi surat mein dakhool bohut mushkil ho jata hai iss kay liye khawand 20/30 minute kay foreplay kay ba'ad apni shahadat ki ungli (naakhun katey hun) chikni kar kay faraj mein ahista ahista daakhil karey, iss kay sath hi aap bhi faraj kay muscles ko dheela chor dein. Iss sey takleef kam hogi thori der ba'ad ungli ko ander baher harkat dey jab aap isey bardaasht karlein to phir khawand apni angoothey kay sath wali do ungliyaa'n chikni kar kay faraj mein ahista ahista daaley, thori der kay baad unko ander baher harkat dey iss sey amooman parda e bakarat (hymen) phutt jata hai kuch khoon bhi nikalta hai aur ma'amooli si takleef bhi hoti hai magar iss sey zabardast jinsi josh bhi paeda hota hai. Ungliyon kay dakhool kay ba'ad zakar ka dakhool aasaan hojata hai jab khoon kam ho jaey to phir khawand chikney zakar ko tariqa no. 1 kay mutabiq ahista ahista faraj mein daakhil karey aur ahista ahista jhatkey laganey kay sath hi woh aap kay bazer ko bhi mushtail karey, bazer ko aap khud bhi mushtail kar sakti hain. Aurat kay lutf kay liye bazer ka ishtiaal bohut mufeed hai agar aap relax ho kar mubashrat mein bharpoor ta'awwun kareingi to aap ko takleef na hogi ya phir bohut hi ma'amooli hogi lekin agar zyada takleef ho to ek din kay liye mubashrat multawi kar dein ta'kay zakhm mundamil ho sakey. Dakhool kay ba'ad donon mian biwi per ghusl laazim ho jata hai chahey mian ka inzaal hua ho ya na ho. Ghusl e janabat jitni jaldi ho utna hi behter hai taa' kay insan jald paak ho jaey.

SUHAAG RAAT OR MENSES

 Ba'az auqaat suhag raat ko aurat ko haez (menses) shuru ho jata hai jis ki wajah sey khawand ko sukht pareshani ka samna karna parta hai usey zabardast tanau ho raha hota hai jo kisi surat khatam nahin hota mubashrat woh kar nahin sakta aisi intehaee surat mein mard kay zakar aur khusyon mein shadeed dard honay lagta hai woh mard jinhon ney kabhi khud lazzati (masturbation) nahin ki hoti unn kay liye ye ek nehayat sangeen masla hota hai kyun kay agar mard ko 4 ghanto'n sey zyada der tana'u rahey to woh mustaqil tor per na mard ho sakta hai chuna'ncha aisi surat mein biwi ko sharam ek taraf rakhtey huey chahiyie kay woh khawand kay hassas hisson khusoosan zakar ko chikney hathon sey mushtail karey hatta kay woh manzil (discharge) ho kar sukoon hasil karey.

MUBASHRAT K BAAR (AFTERPLAY)

Allah kay nabi ney mubashrat kay foran ba'ad alaehda honay sey mana farmaya hai mojooda mahireen ney bhi afterplay ko bohut ehmiyat di hai, taqreeban tamam mahireen kay nazdeek yeh na sirf bohut ahem bul kay nihayat zaroori hai aur yeh orgasm sey bhi behter hai khusoosan khawateen kay liye. Le'haza orgasm kay foran ba'ad mian sey alaehda na ho jaei'n aur bister sey bahir na nikal jaei'n bul kay uss kay jism kay sath jism mila kar leti rahei'n uss kay jism per hath phaerei'n, choomei'n, uss kay sath baghalgeer hun aur usko bhee'nchein waghaera. Mian ko bataei'n kay woh kis qadar taaqatwar hai aur aap ney uss kay qurb aur mubashrat sey kis qadar lutf uthaya, usey bataei'n kay woh ek shaandaar mohabbat karney wala (lover) hai yani uski ta'areef karein usey bataein aaj kay jinsi amal (love making) mein aap ko sab sey acha kya laga taa kay woh aaenda bhi aap ko isi tarah khushi aur lazzat dey. Safaee waghaera kay ba'ad us kay seeney ya baazu per ser rakh kar so jaein, ikatthey soney ka ek yeh fa'eda bhi hai kay mian ko raat kay waqt phir tanau (erection) ho sakta hai to iss surat mein ek baar phir jinsi amal (love making) sey lutf uthaya ja sakta hai. Mubashrat kay kuch der ba'ad donon ikatthey naha bhi saktey hain mian kay jism per sabun lagaein, usey mulei'n, maqsad mael utarna nahin bul kay lutf hai . Us kay jism per massage karein aur phir uss kay jism ko khushk karein shaadi kay ibtidaee saalo'n mein nahatey huey aap kay jism kay lums sey khawand ko phir tana'u aa sakta hai nahatey waqt mubashrat ka lutf bohut munfarid hai.

GUSAL-E-JANABAT KA TARIQA

Mubashrat mein dakhool kay ba'ad aurat per ghusal lazim ho jata hai iss kay liye mard ka inzal hona ya aurat ka orgasm hasil karna zaroori nahin iss tarah jab bhi koi cheez faraj mein daakhil hogi to aurat per ghusl wajib ho jaey ga iss kay elawa kisi bhi wajah maslan khwab ya tasawwuraat ki wajah sey faraj sey pani beh nikley to bhi ghusl e janabat lazim ho jaey ga.

Ghusl e janabat kay liye pehley donon hathon ko dhoya jaey phir sharam gaah ko achi tarah dho liya jaey aur ek baar phir hathon ko achi tarah saaf kar liya jaey iss kay baad namaz kay wuzuu ki tarah wuzuu kya jaey phir ungliyaan pani mein tarr kat kay baalon ki jarron ka khalaal kar liya jaey phir poorey jism per pani baha diya jaey kay jism ka koi hissa tarr honey sey na reh jaey albatta khawateen ko apney baal kholney ki zaroorat nahin sirf inn per pani baha liya jaey. (muslim, bukhari).

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FOREPLAY (FOR WOMENS)

FOREPLAY (FOR WOMENS)

Jadeed research foreplay foreplay (mohabbat ka khel) ko bohut zyada ahmiat deti hai kaha jata hai kay jinsi amal mein sab sey zyada lutf angaez cheez foreplay (mohabbat ka khel) hai jab kay mubashrat to lutf ka khatima hai. Allah kay nabi ney 1400 saal pehley hi jinsi khel sey pehley mubashrat sey mana farmaya yani foran mubashrat shuru na ki jaey. Wa'zeh rahey kay bos o kinar sey na wuzu toot'ta hai aur na hi roza. (abu daud, nisaee, ahmad, bukhari, muslim). Fitri tor per mard jinsi tor per bohut jald beadaar ho jata hai aur foran mubashrat kay liye tayyar ho jata hai aur do, teen minute mein inzal hasil kar leta hai, iss tarah iss ka saara amal teen, char minute mein mukammal ho jata hai. Iss kay bur'aks aurat kay jinsi jazbaat jald beadaar nahin hotey, jinsi baedaari kay liye usko mard ki nisbat 10 gunaa zyada waqt ki zaroorat hai yani aurat ko jinsi baedaari aur orgasm hasil karney kay liye kam az kam 30 minute ki zaroorat hai. Jinsi baedaari kay liye aurat ko kam az kam 20 minute ki chaer chaar, ishti'aal aur foreplay (foreplay (mohabbat ka khel)) ki zaroorat hai, chu'n kay humarey haan mard o khawateen iss baat sey aagah nahin jis ki wajah sey khawateen ki bohut bari ta'adaad jinsi lutf sey mehroom ho kar jinsi dilchaspi kho deti hain. Aurat apney saarey jism ko chuna pasand karti hai woh chahti hai kay pehley uss kay kam hassas hissey ko chu'aa jaey, Phir zyada hassas hisso'n ko mushta'il kya jaey aur aakhir mein hassas tareen hisso'n ko jab kay mard chahta hai kay uss kay hassas tareen hissey ko chuaa jaey, doosri taraf agar mard kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko jald mushta'il kya jaey to woh jald inzaal kay qareeb pohonch jata hai aur phir agar woh manzil ho jaey to aurat amooman orgasm hasil nahin kar pati aur woh bharpoor jinsi lutf sey mehroom rehti hai mohabbat ka taweel khel dar'asal aurat ki zaroorat hai mard ki nahin.

Mard chu'n kay pehley hi jinsi tor per tayyar hota hai le'haza isey biwi ko tayyar karney kay sath apney aap ko bhi control karna hota hai (iss silsilay mein biwi bhi madad kar sakti hai jis ka zikr aagey hoga) le'haza foreplay mein donon mia'n biwi ki zyada ter tawajjah biwi kay jinsi jazbaat baedaar karney ki taraf ho. Biwi iss silsilay mein khawand ko zubaani ya ishaaro'n sey bataey kay woh iss kay kin hisso'n ko kis tarah mushta'il karey ya phir woh mia'n ka hath pakar kar uss ki rehnumaee karey kay woh kahan kya karey taa kay uss (biwi) kay jazbaat jald baedaar ho jaein, khawand kay sath biwi khud bhi apney jazbaat mushta'il kar sakti hai bul kay behter tor per kar sakti hai kyun kay woh apney jism ko khawand sey behter janti hai humarey haan foreplay mein amooman mard hi fa'aal kirdaar ada karta hai jab kay aurat ghaer fa'aal rehti hai yeh cheez mard ko bohut na gawar guzarti hai chuna'ncha aurat ko bhi khushgawar azdawajii zindagi kay liye foreplay mein fa'aal kirdaar ada karna chahiyie.

Mard ko yeh baat bohut pasand hai kay uss kay jism kay zyada hassas hisso'n zakar waghaera ko mushta'il kya jaey magar chu'n kay mard apni jismani saakht ki wajah sey pehley hi jinsi tor per baedaar hota hai le'haza agar biwi uski pasand kay mutabiq uss kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko mushta'il karey gi toWoh bohut jald inzal kay qareeb pohonch jaey ga, iss ko control karna uss kay liye bohut mushkil hoga, le'haza aap apney mia'n ki pasand kay bar'aks pehley uss kay kam hassas hisso'n ko mushta'il karein aur phir aakhir mein zyada hassas hisso'n ko taa kay foreplay lamba ho sakey aur iss doran aap kay jinsi jazbaat bhi poori tarah mushta'il ho jaei'n. Foreplay mein sab sey pehley kapro'n samaet ek doosrey kay jism per haath phaerei'n, uss sey baghal geer hun, galey lagein, pyar sey chimtei'n, seeney sey lagaei'n, bhee'nchei'n aur lipat jaei'n waghaera, ek ma'aqool waqt bos o kinar (kissing) per surf karei'n khawand kay mu'nh kay andar kiss karein, uss kay rukhsaaro'n ko choomei'n, uss kay dono'n hont apney honto'n mein lei'n aur choosei'n mard kay neechey waley hont aur zakar ka aapas mein bila wasta ta'alluq hota hai, khusoosan uss ko ahista ahista chabaei'n, kaatei'n unn kay gird zubaan phaerei'n, papotey, kaan ki louei'n, gardan kay agley aur pichley hissey ko chumei'n, massage karei'n, honto'n sey chabaei'n, kaatei'n, thori kay neechey galey kay bilkul darmyaan mein neechey collar bone tak ka hissa bohut hassas hota hai, iss per zubaan phaere'in, iss ko chumei'n mia'n ko bohut lutf aaey ga, woh bhi aisa hi kar sakta hai jis sey aap lutf andoz hongi. Ek doosrey kay kaprey utaarei'n, apney apney bhi utaarey ja saktey hain, behter yeh hai kay change kay liye kabhi khud utaarei'n kabhi ek doosrey kay utarei'n ab phir uss kay saarey jism per hath phaerei'n ungliyo'n ki pauro'n sey uss kay poorey jism ko explore karei'n, uss kay sar kay baalo'n mein pyar sey ungliya'n phaerei'n, uss kay seeney per hath phaerei'n nipples ko cherei'n unn kay gird zubaan phaerei'n Inn ko choosei'n, kaatei'n, mia'n ki raano'n kay androoni hisso'n ko chuei'n, thapthapaei'n, chumei'n khusoosan jahan raan aur dharh miltey hain wahan zuban phaerna mard ko bohut pasand hai, yeh usey bohut lutf deta hai uss kay poorey jism per boso'n ki baarish kar dei'n, mard ki baghal bhi ek hassas hissa hai uska baazu ooper uthaei'n wahan hath sey thapthapaei'n, nakhun sey pyar sey khurchei'n, wahan zuban golaee mein phaerei'n yeh mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai. Baghlo'n ki khushbuu sey aap bhi lutf andoz ho sakti hain agar aap ko buu na pasand ho to wahan apni pasand ka perfume spray karlei'n mard kay sareen khusoosan uss kay thora neechey wala hissa bhi hassas hai.

Sareen ko chuei'n, tatolei'n, sehlaei'n, chutki lei'n aur pyar sey thapthapaei'n. Apney honto'n ko chikna karlei'n aur phir sareen kay neechey waley zyada hassas hissey per honto'n sey English ka 8 bar bar banaei'n, yeh mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai iss hissey per zubaan phaerna bhi mard ko acha lagta hai. Mubashrat mein jab mard ooper ho to uss kay sareen ko pakrei'n aur ek rhythm kay sath zor zor sey bhee'nchei'n khusoosan mia'n kay jhatko'n kay sath aur jab woh inzaal kay qareeb ho to iss hassas jagah ko apney naakhuno'n sey khurchei'n. Mard kay ba'az jismani hisso'n ko chuney aur dabaney sey mard ko bohut lutf milta hai maslan hutheliyo'n kay bilkul darmiyani hissey ko musalsal zor sey angoothey sey dabana, tukhno'n kay neechey garho'n ko ungliyo'n ki poro'n sey dabaei'n aur kuch der dabaey rakhei'n, iss kay elawa aaram sey masaj bhi kya jasakta hai, pao'n kay angoothey kay sath wali ungli kay neechey apney hath ka angootha rakhei'n isey dabaey aur thapthapei'n waisey poorey pao'n ki maalish bhi mard kay liye lutf angaez hai. Mard kay pao'n ka angootha bohut hassas hai ba'az mahireen ka khayal hai kay yeh mard kay jinsi a'aaz'a (male genitalia) ki tarah hassas hai angoothey kay gird zuban phaerna, isey choosna mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai.
Dono'n angootho'n ko bari bari choosei'n aur zuban phaerei'n, mard kay liye kaatna bhi bohut lutf angaez hai le'haza bos o kinar (kissing) kay sath jism kay mukhtalif hisso'n waghaera ko honto'n aur daanto'n sey pyar sey chabana, dabana, kaatna waghaera mard kay liye pur lutf hota hai. Haatho'n kay elawa kisi bhi narm aur mulaem cheez sey massage karna mardo'n ko pasand hai, yah cheezei'n jinsi jazbaat bharkaati hain koi silky kapra khusoosan satin, silk waghaera lein aur iss sey khawand kay jism ka massage karei'n iss kay elawa khushbudaar oil sey massage karna bhi lutf angaez hai, khusoosan apney pistaan (chest) sey uss kay jism kay mukhtalif hisso'n ka massage karei'n khusoosan khawand ka seena aur pusht waghaera uss kay seeney sey lipat jaei'n usko saamney sey aur peechey sey khoob mohabbat sey bheen'chei'n, zahir hai kay yah sab baghaer kapr'on kay hoga. Apney nangey jism ko khawand kay jism kay sath rugrei'n iss kay kaee tareeqey ho saktey hain maslan samney sey baghal geer ho kar apney pistaan ko mia'n kay seeney kay sath ragrei'n, sath hi apni taangei'n aur raanei'n uski raano'n kay sath ragrei'n, a'aaza e makhsoosa (female genitalia) ko uss kay jism kay sath ragrei'n , apney mia'n kay sath peechey sey lipat jaei'n, apni chaatiyo'n sey uski kamar ka massage karei'n, sath hi gardan ko choomei'n kaatei'n, hath uss kay seeney per phaerei'n, uss kay nipples ko ungli aur angoothey mein ley kar pyar sey maslei'n mia'n kay liye pur lutf hai.Khawand bister kay kinarey per bethey, us kay samney full size ka aaena ho, aap uss kay peechey taa'ngei'n khol kar iss tarah bethei'n kay aap ki taa'ngei'n uss kay donon taraf hun iss kay sath iss tarah jurr kay bethein kay aap ki naaf kay neechey wala hissa uss kay neechey waley hissey ko press karey, aap kay pistaan (breast) uss ki kamar ko press karei'n apney haatho'n ko achi tarah chikna karlei'n aur uss kay seeney per phaerei'n aur ungliya'n uss kay nipples ko chuei'n aur mushta'il karei'n kuch der kay liye ungliyo'n ko kuch neechey le jaein aur paet kay nichley hissay per pyar se phaerei'n phir mazeed neechey ja kar zakar (penis) ko mushta'il karein , phir aur neechey khusyey (testicles) ko cherei'n aur mushta'il karein inn ko thora sa dabaei'n, zakar ki shaft per zarb lagaei'n iss kay sath sath apney jism ko uski kamar kay sath mazeed press karei'n aur rugrei'n jab kay khawand yeh sab kuch aaeiney mein dekhey yeh khawand kay liye nihayat lazzat aamaez hai.

Mardo'n kay khusyey (testicles) jinsi le'haz sey bohut hassas hotey hain, mardo'n kay liye inko chuuna, sehlana, chaerna, bosa lena waghaera bohut lutf angaez hai inko kaee tarah sey mushta'il kya ja sakta hai, khusyo'n ko bohut ehtiyaat sey angoothey aur sath wali ungli sey bilkul ooper (jarr) sey pakrei'n doosrey hath ki hutheli ko chukker ki soorat mein in kay nichley hissey per halka halka phaerei'n aur doosrey hath se iss jagah ko mukhtalif andaaz maslan bundh mutthi (knuckles) aur hutheli kay nichley hissey waghaera se bar bar dabaei'n. Donon sareen kay darmyaan ungli phearna aur maq'ad ko charo'n taraf sey golaee mein ungli sey mushta'il karna mard kay liye bohut pur lazzat hai. Jinsi tor per mard ka hassas tareen hissa us ka Penis (zakar) hai us ko chuuna, mushta'il karna mard kay lutf mein dramaee tor per izafa karta hai magar khawateen ko iss baat ka ehsaas nahin humarey haan taqreeban sari biwiya'n iss ko hath lagatey huey darti hain ya sharmati hain, agar aap ko yeh bohut acha nahin lagta to apney jism ko khawand ki paero ki huddi kay sath press karei'n taa'hum khawand chahta hai kay iss ki biwi iss kay zakar ko chaerey, mushta'il karey magar woh iss sey duur rahti hai jis ki wajah sey woh jhunjhlaahat ka shikaar ho jata hai. Khawand ki mohabbat jeetney kay liye biwi ko isey chuna aur mukhtalif andaz sey mushta'il karna hi hoga, aurat ko yeh baat jaan leni chahiyie kay zakar ko bila wasta chuna mard kay liye intihaee pur lutf aur sab sey zyada lutfangaez hai, khawand ki aashiq aur dil jeetney wali biwi mard kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko bila wasta mushta'il karegi, chuna'ncha woh mukhtalif andaz sey mard kay zakar aur khusyon ko mushta'il kar kay usko apna ghulam bana legi. Mard kay hassas tareen hisso'n ko mushta'il kartey waqt khusoosi ehtiyaat ki zaroorat hai kyun kay agar inn ko zyada der tak ya zyada josh kay sath mushta'il kya jaey to amooman mard mubashrat sey pehley hi manzil ho jaega bul kay bohut sey khawand surat e inzal (premature ejaculation) ka shikaar hain woh to hassas hisso'n ko chutey hi manzil ho jatey hain.

Male Genital Stimulation:

Khawand kay hassas tareen hissey yani zakar (penis) ko ka'ee tarah sey mushta'il (stimulate) kya ja sakta hai...

Foreplay kay doran kabhi kabhar khawand kay zakar (penis) ko pakrein aur uski topi ko hutheli sey thapthapaei'n, halki halki zarb lagaei'n apney pistaan (breast) sey thapthapae'n aur rugrei'n iss kay sath zakar (penis) ka nipples kay sath rugerna mard kay liye bohut lutf ka baa'iss hai.
Iss kay elawa zakar (penis) ko khawand kay paet per lita kar hath sey thapthapaei'n ya ek hath sey isey uss kay paet kay sath press karei'n doosrey hath ki ulti ungliya'n uss kay ooper ahista ahista rugrei'n aur kuch der ba'ad seedhi ungliya'n phaerei'n, inn sey massage karein yeh mard kay liye bey panaah lutf angaez hai. 

Tanau (erection) sey pehley ek hath sey zakar (penis) ko jarr sey pakrei'n aur doosrey hath ki chikni hutheli ko topi kay ooper rakhei'n aur phir hutheli ko chotey chakker ki surat mein golaee mein rugrei'n.

Iss tareeqey mein donon hath istimaal hongey donon haatho'n ko achi tarah chikna karlei'n ek hath sey zakar (penis) ko neechey sey pakrein, doosrey hath mein zakar (penis) ko pakrei'n saari muttthi band na karei'n, sirf angoothey aur sath wali ungli sey circle banaei'n phir ooper neechey harkat karei'n, jab ooper topi ki taraf aaei'n to angoothey sey topi kay neechey kay hissey wali jhilli ko jo topi aur shaft sey mili hoti hai, halki si chot lagaei'n.

Isi tarah jab ooper pohonchei'n to zakar (penis) ko zor sey bhee'nchei'n, sath hi topi per angoothey sey halki si zarb lagaein jab neechey ko aaei'n to daba'u kam kar dein aur hath ko khol dein iss kay sath hi khusyo'n ya khusyo'n (testicles) aur maq'ad kay darmyan wali jagah per halka sa daba'u daalei'n.
zakar (penis) ki jarr (base) kay neechey wali dheeli jild ko angoothey aur sath wali do ungliyo'n sey pakrei'n doosrey chikney hath sey zakar (penis) ko mutthi mein pakrei'n mutthi ko ooper letey jaei'n aur sath sath iss ko iss tarah bhee'nchei'n jiss tarah maaltey ka juice nichorra jata hai iss ko ooper tak ka'ee baar zor sey bhee'nchei'n aur chor dei'n.
pney khawand kay zakar (penis) ko donon hath sey pakrei'n, ek mutthi ooper ho aur doosri neechey, haatho'n ko chikna kar liya jaey donon haatho'n ko ooper neechey ley kar jaei'n aur sath sath donon mutthiyo'n ko mukhalif sumt mein marorei'n, bul (twist) dein raftaar aur daba'u ko badaltey rahei'n kabhi kam aur kabhi zyada.
Ek chikney hath sey mian kay zakar (penis) ko bilkul neechey sey pakrei'n phir neechey sey ooper ko stroke lagaein, jab pehla hath ooper aa ajey to phir foran doosrey hath sey yehi karei'n, yaksaniyat aur rhythm kay sath musalsal aisa karti rahein. Kuch der ba'ad sumt (direction) badal lein yani ab janwar kay doodh dohney ki tarah ooper neechey ko wohi harkat karein yeh bohut pur lutf hai.
Uss kay zakar (penis) ko jarr (base) sey mazbooti sey pakrein aur phir angoothey ko topi kay ooper chakkar ki soorat phaerei'n, rugrei'n, masaj karein, iss kay sat bohut pyar sey topi kay neechey wali jhilli ko angoothey aur ungli mein ley kar masaj karein.
Mian kay zakar (penis) ki jarr ko dheeli khaal (skin) sey pakrein doosrey hath kay angoothey aur sath wali ungli sey topi kay bilkul neechey jahan topi aur shaft aapas mein miltey hain challa banaei'n phir iss challey ko marorei'n, bul dein kabhi kabhi iss challey ko topi tak ley jaei'n aur phir topi sey baher nikal kar dobara neechey sey shuru karein iss amal ko baar baar dohrae'in yeh mard kay liye bohut lutf angaez hai.

Shahadat aur bari ungli ko chikna karein donon ungliyo'n ka do shaakha bana lein aur zakar (penis) ko un kay darmiyan pakar lein ahista ahista ooper neechey karein ungliyo'n kay joro'n yani gaa'ntho'n sey topi kay neechey wali jagah ko thori thori der ba'ad dabaei'n ungliyo'n ki graft ko kabhi dheela karein aur kabhi kuss lein, kabhi khol dein aur kabhi tung kar dein.
Apni dono'n hutheliyo'n ko aapas mein milaei'n, mian kay zakar (penis) ko inn kay ander daakhil karein phir hutheliyo'n ko aagey peechey iss tarah rugrei'n jis tarah haatho'n ko mala jata hai sath hi ooper neechey bhi harkat dein raftaar aur daba'u ko badaltey rahei'n kabhi kam aur kabhi zyada.
Khawand kay taney (erected) zakar (penis) ko mazbooti sey ek hath mein pakrei'n doosrey hath ki hutheli ko chotey chakker ki surat mein topi kay ooper rugrei'n phir hutheli ko zakar (penis) ki sides per ooper neechey rugrei'n phir zakar (penis) ko mutthi mein pakar lein aur isey marorei'n (twist) aur mutthi ko ooper neechey le jaei'n. Ab topi ko ooper sey ungliyo'n mein pakrein aaram aur pyar sey bhee'nchei'n, chor dein, phir bhee'nchei'n, phir chor dein ka'ee baar iss tarah karein iss kay elawa ungliyo'n ko topi per iss tarah ghumaei'n jis tarah bottle ka dhakken khola jata hai, ya lemon nichora jata hai, yeh bohut lutf angaez hai.
zakar (penis) ko dono'n haathon mein pakrei'n phir bari bari kabhi ek angoothey aur kabhi doosrey angoothey sey zakar (penis) kay soorakh ko aaram sey ooper neechey rugrei'n phir bari ehtiyat sey ek angoothey ko zakar (penis) ki darz (slit) mein daakhil karein aur pyar sey massage karein angootha dhula ho warna infection ka darr hota hai.

Poori tarah taney (erected) zakar (penis) ko mutthi mein pakrein, phir tezi kay sath neechey sey ooper ko stroke lagaei'n aur phir piston ki tarah neechey le jaei'n ka'ee baar musalsal isi tarah masaj karei'n phir do tez stroke lagaei'n phir aaram sey masaj karein phir teen stroke ooper neechey lagaei'n phir aaram sey masaj karei'n iss tarah tez stroke ki ta'adaad barhatey jaei'n darmiyan mein pyar-o-muhabbat kay waqfey daalei'n hatta kay woh urooj per pohonch jaey.

Khawand ko mukhtalif tareeqo'n sey urooj per le jaei'n maslan chikney haatho'n sey uss kay zakar (penis) ko mushta'il karei'n hatta kay urooj kay qareeb pohonch jaey, phir hath hata lein aur apney nipples bosey kay liye usey paesh karei'n jab woh kuch pursukoon ho jaey to phir ahista ahista usey dobara mushta'il karei'n hatta kay dobara urooj per pohonch jaey. Phir us kay zakar (penis) ko topi kay neechey ya jarr (base) sey pakar kar zor sey dabaei'n hatta kay inzaal ki khwahish khatam ho jaey, teesri baar phir ahista ahista (slowly) usey urooj per le jaein hatta kay uska jism kaa'npney lagey tab aap peechey hutt jaei'n phir iss kay samney apney pistaano'n ko maslein jab kay woh aap ko dekh raha ho, dobara shuru karney sey pehley hatho'n ko phir chikna karlei'n iss baar uski raano'n kay androoni hisson aur paet aur doosrey hassas hisso'n ko mushta'il karei'n thori der ba'ad rukk jaein phir shuru karein jitni bar dil chahey karein hatta kay woh inzaal hasil karley.

JALD ANZAL KO ROKNA:

• Mard kay inzal ko rokney kay liye biwi mandarja zael tadabeer ikhtiyar kar sakti hai...
• Biwi khawand kay khusyon (testicles) ko aaram o pyar kay sath ooper sey pakar ley aur inzal kay qareeb khawand kay ishaarey per inn ko aaram sey neechey khaench ley aur 30 seconds tak isi position mein rakhey.
• Mard kay ishaarey per aap apni 2 ungliyon shahadat aur bari ungli sey khusoosan khusyo'n aur maq'ad kay darmiyan wali jagah ko zor sey dabaei'n aur 30 seconds tak dabaey rakhei'n iss sey mard ki inzal ki khwahish khatam ho jati hai.
• Jab mard ko inzal ka khatra ho to woh ishara kardey to biwi uss kay zakar ko topi kay neechey ya jarr sey pakar kar ek hath sey ya donon sey zor sey bhee'nchey ya dabaey aur 30 seconds tak dabaey rakhey to mard ki inzal ki khwahish khatam ho jaegi inn tareeqo'n mein yeh aakhri tareeqa sab sey zyada mu'asser hai.

Amooman donon ek hi cheez ko pasand nahin kartey har fard ki pasand mukhtalif hoti hai le'haza aap khawand ko uski pasand kay mutabiq jinsi khushi dein aur woh aap ko aap ki pasand kay mutabiq khushi dey. Ek fard aaj khushi haasil kar ley to doosra agley din, taa'hum ek raat mein bhi jinsi khushi hasil ki ja sakti hai behter yeh hai kay ek waqt mein ek fard khushi hasil karey aur donon ki tawajjuh sirf ek hi fard per markooz ho.

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MUBASHRAT K ADAAB (BIWI K LIYE)

MUBASHRAT K ADAAB (BIWI K LIYE)

ZAROORI SAMAN:

Baghaer baazu wali kursi, cushion wali sukht bister, sukht mattress, do takyay sukht mubashrat kay waqt kamar kay neechey rakhney kay liye, do narm soney kay liye, chiknaahat koi achi cold cream paani mein hul honey wali jelly, badaam, coconut ya zaetun ka oil, Vaseline aur petroleum jelly hargiz istimaal na karein. Yeh faraj mein ja kar jum jati hai jis sey infection ka khatra hota hai. Safaee kay teen kaprey hun ek mota aur bara neechey bichaney kay liye, baqi do mia'n biwi kay liye.

MUBASHRAT MAIN ZIADA LUTF ANDOZ HONAY K LIYE:

Behter hai kay mubashrat kay din pehley sey taey shuda ho ya mia'n biwi ek doosrey ko waze'h isharey dein kay jinsi amal ka program hoga , waisey to koi bhi din ho sakta hai magar islam mein juma'a (friday) kay din ghusal ki fazeelat hai yani mubashrat juma'araat (thursday) ki raat ya juma'a sey pehley afzal hai.
Hadees e nabvi hai kay jo koi juma'a kay din(apni biwi kay liye) ghusal ka saamaan karey aur khud ghusal karey, to us kay liye har qadam saal bhar kay amal ka badla hai goya saal bhar rozey sey raha aur unn ki raato'n mein qayam kya. (mishkat) Mubashrat kisi bhi waqt ki ja sakti hai din ho ya raat, taa'hum nabi kareem aksar raat kay pichley peher witr ki namaz ada karney kay baad mubashrat farmatey thay, iss waqt amooman fard zyada pur sukoon hota hai aur jald manzil nahin hota.
Jinsi amal kay liye baqa'eda tayyari ki jaey, khawand jald ghar aa jaey, biwi bhi jald kam khatam kar ley, bacho'n ko sula dey, mia'n biwi thakey huey na hun jismani aur zehni tor per pur sukoon hun khauf, pareshaani aur thakawat waghaera main mubashrat na ki jaey iss surat mein fard bharpoor lutf andoz nahin hota. Iss sham khana kam aur jald kha liya jaey, ghiza zood hazam ho yani mubashrat kay waqt paet bhara hua na ho.
Kamra aisa ho jahan sey aawazei'n doosrey kamro'n tak na pohonch sakein mubashrat kay doran fard jinsi haejaan mein aawazei'n nikalta hai, naey shaadi shuda couple mein iss ka khauf hota hai kay inn ki aawazei'n log na sun lein yeh khauf unn kay jazbaat ko sard kar deta hai iss surat mein halka phulka music lagaya ja sakta hai taa kay aawazei'n kamrey sey baher na jaein. Kamrey ka temperature munasib ho na garmi ho na sardi yani jagah pur sukoon ho, shor o ghul aur madaakhlat sey mehfooz, phone utaar dei'n warna phone ki ghanti aap kay jazbaat ko ek dum sard kar degi.
Donon mia'n biwi kay jism saaf suthrey aur har qism ki buu se paak hun, behter hai kay sham ko ghusal kar liya jaey, agar bathroom bedroom kay sath ho to mubashrat sey ek ghanta pehley donon ikaththey ek doosrey ko ghusal dein maqsad mael utaarna nahin bul kay ek doosrey kay lums sey lutf andooz hona hai, brush kar liya jaey taa kay muu'nh sey budbuu(smell) na aaey.
 Kamrey ka mahol (environment) romantic bana lein roshni madhdham ho agar rangeen ho to aur bhi acha hai, mom batti ki roshni mahol ko bohut saher angaez bana deti hai iss ki roshni mein aurat ka jism zyada khoobsurat dikhaee deta hai, air freshner ka istimal karein khushboo aap donon ki pasand ki ho.
Shaadi per itna khurch kartey hain to kuch khurch apney bister per zaroor karein bister kushaada ho yani double bed ho taa kay harkat mein aasani ho gaddey bohut zyada narm na hun zyada narm bister per jism ander ko dhuns jata hai jis ki wajah sey harkat karney mein dushwari hoti hai. Bister sey charcharahat ki aawazei'n nahin aani chahiyie'n bister ki chadarei'n khush rung, shokh aur nihayat mulaem hun masaln satin aur silk waghaera ki, cotton aur khurduri chaderei'n sara maza kharab kar deti hain. Mumkin ho to farash per qaleen ya moti dari bichi ho taa kay kabhi kabhar change kay liye neechey mubashrat ki ja sakey, khwab gaah mein ek adad bara aaena bhi ho taa kay wahan aap apna bana o singhaar check kar sakein.
Mard chu'n kay bunyadi tor per bazarya basaarat yani kisi cheez ko dekh kar jinsi tor per mushta'il hota hai le'haza aap ka libaas khush rung, mulaem aur silky ho libaas ki banawat aisi ho kay aap kay khoobsurat a'azaa'a maslan chaati waghaera zyada numaya'n aur pur kashish mehsoos hun. Libas ka rung khawand ki pasand ka ho iss tarah jun'hi khawand aap ko dekhey ga us kay jazbaat bharak uthei'n gey aur jab woh narm libaas kay ooper sey aap kay jism per haath phaerey ga to us kay jazbaat mein aag lag jaegi. Iss kay sath khawand ki pasand ki khushboo bhi istimaal karein siwaey galey kay locket kay baaqi zaewraat utaar dein.
 Khawand ki pasand kay mutabiq halka sa make up karein amooman mardo'n ko zyada make up pasand nahin hota iss silsiley main aap khawand sey pooh sakti hain kay usko kya acha lagta hai. Humarey haan ajeeb sitam zareefi hai kay shuru mein to biwiya'n inn cheezo'n ka khayal karti hain magar chund baras guzar janey kay ba'ad wo libaas aur jismaani safaee ka khayal nahin rakhtii'n, ghar mein aksar auqaat unn kay kaprey gandey hotey hain, haatho'n sey pyaz aur adrak ki buu aa rahi hoti hai, jism paseena ki buu sey labraez hota hai yah sab cheezein mard kay jinsi jazbaat ko sard karney kay liye kafi hoti hain. Aurat iss rawayye ki wajah sey apni kashish kho deti hai magar yehi aurtein jab bazaar jaeingi to naha dho kar ban sanwar kar jaeingi haala'n kay aurat ki shakal o surat, libaas aur jism ko humesha khawand kay liye pur kashish hona chahiyie. Iss kay liye aurat ko sha'oori koshish karni chahiyie hadees e nabvi ka mafhoom hai kay biwi ki zahiri shakal o surat aisi ho kay khawand dekhey to khush ho jaey libaas kay elawa biwi kay chehrey pe muskuraahat ho. 
Mubashrat sey pehley ek doosrey kay kaprey utaarna bhi ek lutf angaez marhala hai le'haza aurat ka izarbund aur bra kay hook iss qism kay hun jisey khawand aasani sey khol sakey warna ba'surat e deegar izarband aur bra ko utartey utartey uss kay jazbaat sard parjaeingey.
Mubashrat faraj (vagina) mein ho gi aurat ka khayal hota hai kay mard ko ilm hota hai kay zakar kab daakhil karna hai jab kay mard ko ilm nahin hota le'haza jab aurat kay jinsi jazbaat urooj per hun to woh mia'n ko daakhil karney ka ishara karey iss kay sath hi dakhool mein mia'n ko madad karey taa kay khawand ko dakhool mein diqqat na ho.
 Iss kay liye aurat penis (zakar) ko hath sey pakar kay vagina (faraj) mein daakhil kar sakti hai ya apney donon labias (lub) achi tarah khol dey taa kay khawand zakar ko aasani kay sath daakhil kar sakey humarey haan chu'n kay biwiyio'n ko iss baat ka ilm nahin le'haza woh dakhool mein khawand ki rehnumaee nahin kartiin jis ki wajah sey bohut sey khawand rehnumaee ki adum mojoodgee mein aasani sey dakhool nahin kar patey aur iss koshish mein baher hi manzil ho jatey hain yeh cheez biwi kay liye shadeed frustration aur khawand kay liye sharmindagi ka baa'iss hoti hai.
Mahireen ka khayal hai kay jab tak aap donon kay liye jinsi amal sey lutf andoz honey kay liye kafi waqt na ho iss ki koshish na ki jaey, iss kay liye aap kay pass kam az kam ek ghantey ka waqt ho tub aap foreplay (mohabbat kay khel) aur intercourse (mubashrat) sey bharpoor andaaz mein lutfandooz hosakein gi. Aurat ko to jinsi amal kay liye tayyar honey mein hi aadha ghanta lag jata hai.
Jaisey kay peechey bataya ja chuka hai kay mubashrat sirf faraj mein hogi maq'ad mein qata'an haram hai Hazrat Abu Huraera sey rivayat hai kay Hazrat Muhammad ney farmaya jo shakhs apni aurat ki maq'ad mein budfaeli karey woh mal'oon hai, khuda uski taraf nazr e rehmat sey nahin dekhta (tirmazi, abudaud). Budqismati sey humarey haan bhi ab kuch khawand yeh harkat kartey hain merey paas aisey kaee case aaey. Le'haza iss surat mein biwi ko kabhi bhi khawand ko iss amal ki ijazat nahin deni chahiyie warna woh khud bhi gunah gaar hogi agar kabhi ghalti sey ek aadh baar ho jaey to surf e nazar karein, ba'soorat e deegar pehley apney khawand ko samjhaei'n warna iss ma'amley ko donon khaandano'n kay samney paesh karei'n. Iss tarah islam mein haez o nifaas kay doran bhi mubashrat sey mana kya gaya hai chuna'ncha irshaad hai "Haez (menses) mein aurto'n sey bacho inn sey qurbat na karo jab tak woh paak na ho lein to jab paak ho jaein to inn kay paas iss jagah sey aao jis ka Allah ney tumko hukum diya hai."(al-baqarah 222) Intercourse during menses (haez/mahwaari mein mubashrat) na karney wali khawateen amooman rahem kay cancer sey mehfooz rehti hain.
Hazrat Aaesha farmati hain kay samajh daar aurat ko chahiyie kay ek alag kapra farigh rakhey jab uska shohar mubashrat sey faarigh ho jaey to isey usko thama dey apni safaee khud karey agar inn kay kapro'n mein janabat ka koi asar nahin pohoncha ho to woh inn kapro'n mein namaz parh saktey hain. (al-mufti)
Biwi apney khawand ko bataey kay Allah kay nabi ney fori tor per mubashrat sey mana farmaya hai kyun kay aurat ko jinsi tor per tayyar honay kay liye kuch waqt chahiyie. (zadulmea'ad) yani mubashrat foran shuru nahin kar deni chahiyie warna aap iss amal sey lutf andoz nahin hun gi.
Mubashrat sey pehley donon ye du'aa parh lein" Ya Allah humein shaetaan sey mehfooz rakh aur usko bhi (shaetaan sey mehfooz) rakh jo tu humein ata farmaey." (bukhari)
Ek mubashrat kay foran ba'ad agar doosri baar mubashrat karni ho to afzal yeh hai kay ghusl kar liya jaey ya phir wuzu kar liya jaey, tayummum bhi kya jasakta hai. Ya sirf a'aaza e makhsoosa (genitalia) ko dho liya jaey aur ghusl subah kar liya jaey lekin kuch khaney sey pehley wuzu karna sunnat hai.
Jun'hi khawand ka zakar biwi ki faraj mein daakhil ho jaey to donon per ghusl wajib ho jata hai chahey khawand manzil ho ya na ho.

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